We collected the best dating messages that will help you in getting more replies on Plenty of Fish (POF).
Most guys don’t get replies on POF because the messages they send are extremely boring.
There is no reason for a girl who receives 50 messages a day to reply to something that sounds like “Hey”, “How are you?” or “What is up beautiful?”.
To stand out your messages will have to be unique, flirty, and convey that you are a cool friendly guy.
It is also important to avoid showing desperation even if the last date you had was five years ago.
If the girl will sense that you are not successful with other women, she will be immediately turned off because girls want to date guys that are already “preapproved” by other females.
Obviously, in addition to sending good messages, it is also important to have a decent profile and quality photos that don’t scream that you are a jerk or stalker.
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Examples of POF Messages and Conversation Starters That Get Responses
- I have to say, you’re one of the most interesting people I’ve come across in a while. Your passion for life is inspiring, and I think we could have some great conversations.
2. Hey Sarah, I came across your profile and would love to get to know you better! What kind of exotic places have you been to?
3. I don’t know if I am unique, but I am the only person I know who can do the wave with their eyebrows. Did you do anything exciting lately?
4. I only like to text gorgeous 10s so if you like a tall handsome gentleman, we can have a double 10 team 🙂 I am just joking, how is your day going?
5. Oh well, you prefer longer messages. Well, I guess that’s probably because you regularly get messages that sound like “hey” or “sup” or “hey, let’s Netflix and Chill”. That kind of sucks haha. I guess I’m glad I’m not a pretty girl cause that’d get annoying. But don’t get me wrong, I fend off the ladies too, but it’s just probably on another level.
(This message is great for women that have limitations on how short the message can be)
6. I find myself drawn to your profile and can’t help but wonder what you’re really like. You seem like someone who is full of surprises!
7. Hey, how is your day going? Staying out of trouble?
9. Hey Louise what is the craziest message you received so far here on POF?
9. Hey! Did you do anything exciting lately besides doing squats at the gym and eating healthy?
10. Wow, you are stunning! And have an amazing smile. How’s your night been so far? Any exciting plans for the weekend?
11. You seem genuine from your profile…would love to compare our bucket lists sometime 🙂 Would also love to help distract you from having to read through more of your messages! How is your day going so far?
12. I believe that anybody could be Mr. Right. I’m not willing to change my name legally to do that, but I can at least try and treat you the way I think women should be treated.
13. Hey, a super serious question for you: If you could be anything in the world for a couple of hours, what would you choose?
A) Cougar
B) Honeybadger
C) Dolphin
Let me know…
14. Hey there! How is your day going? You have great photos 🙂 Sounds like you have done a decent amount of traveling, what’s your favorite place so far?
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15. I will change my last name to Right, no problem at all 🙂 What’s your favorite travel destination so far? I feel like I need to start going places!
16. Hi Kate I hope you are having a wonderful day! I saw your POF profile and wanted to say hi! How’s your weekend going? Getting up to anything exciting on this rainy day? My name is Bob!
17. Hey Jessica! Would be cool to hang out or go on some adventures together! What do you do during the winters here?
18. Hey 🙂 How’s it going? What are you up to this weekend? You’re really cute btw! What do you do for work and fun?
19. You‘re like a dictionary definition of beautiful: pretty, adorable, and charming! How is your day going so far?
20. I am a bit of an adrenaline junkie and love anything that gets my heart racing. You look quite adventurous as well! What do you do for fun?
21. Hi Kate! Are you more of a summer or winter person?
22. Your profile is intriguing and I would love to chat with you more about it over coffee or drinks sometime. How is your day going?
23. I have been matched with a few other girls, but you are the most adorable of them all! Any plans for the weekend?
24. If you were to write a book, what would the title be?
25. Hey there! I love your photos. I’m really interested in finding out more about you. My name is Mike! Would you like to grab a coffee in the next few days?
26. Hey, you seem like a cool person. I’m pretty new to this whole online dating thing and wasn’t sure how to start a conversation, so I thought I would just say hi. I hope you don’t mind. Anyway, I’m a big fan of the outdoors, I like to hike, camp and swim. I’m a bit of a fitness nut and am always trying to do something active. I’d love to hear what you like to do for fun!
27. Hey there! I’m not really into the whole online dating thing but I figured I should give it a shot. I’m really busy with work right now, so I’m not looking for anything serious. If you’re looking for a friend to chat with and maybe go grab a drink with this weekend, we should chat!
28. Hey stranger. I think I saw you around town the other day. I’m not sure if you remember me, I think you were wearing a green hat. I was a 6’2” guy with dark short hair who kept staring at you. I know it’s a bit of a cliché but I thought it was pretty cool when you gave me a wink. I’d love to get to know you better.
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29. I was wondering if you would like to go to the movies with me this weekend. I don’t know what’s playing but I bet it’s something you’ll like.
30. Hey, can you recommend a good place to eat around here? Also, I noticed you are originally from Edmonton. What was it like growing up there?
31. Hey, have you ever tried surfing? I’ve been trying to learn how to surf, it’s a lot of fun. I saw you’re from the Bay Area, would you say the waves there are mellower or more intense?
32. Hey, you seem like you’re a really cool and down-to-earth girl. I’m stuck in Toronto for a few days and have nothing to do. Would you be interested in getting coffee or something?
33. Hey, I’m not sure if you’ve been on this site long but I’ve seen some pretty crazy messages from people on here. What was the funniest message you have received so far?
34. Being an intelligent and attractive woman, I’m sure you get a lot of messages. I just want to throw my hat in the ring and show you that I’m different from the rest.
35. I can’t remember the last time I woke up and thought that the day ahead of me would be anything less than exciting. I love to laugh, travel, and meet new people. Any exciting plans for the weekend?
36. Hi, I noticed we have something in common…we both like the TV show “How I met your mother.” How is your week going?
37. Hi, I am more of a beach person. I love getting away from my busy life and just being at the beach. I love the water and the air. It’s so nice to get away from the city and just relax. Are you more of a beach or mountain girl?
38. Hey, I noticed that you are really into the art scene. I was thinking of going to the art exhibition downtown on Saturday and I have one extra ticket so if you are interested, let me know.
39. You have a great smile, I’m sure you get told that all the time. I don’t just say that because you’re pretty, but because you seem like a genuinely nice girl. I am Jake by the way 🙂
40. I’m not a religious guy but I definitely believe in signs. I know that’s totally cliché, but when I saw your profile, I knew it was meant to be so I had to say hi.
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41. I saw your profile and thought it was cute and decided to message you. I’m sure you’ll get lots of messages because you seem like a really sweet girl but how is your day going?
42. I don’t know if I’m more intrigued by your looks or the way you write. You seem like a sweet girl, and I would love to get to know you better.
43. I think we’re both looking for something more serious. I’d like to find out what that is.
44. I know you’re not one of those girls who’s just looking for a good time. I’m not one of those guys either so let’s chat. How is your day going?
45. We all have our guilty pleasures. What’s yours?
46. Hey Jessica! I’m trying to meet someone who is smart but also knows how to live to the fullest. You seem like you’d be a lot of fun. Let’s grab a drink sometime.
47. I’m pretty laid back, like to try new things, and love to have a good time. What about you?
48. I’m not a Tinder expert, but I’m pretty sure that the whole purpose of this app is to meet and talk to interesting people. Speaking of interesting people, I’m very curious about you.
49. I’m not usually the type to message first, but I couldn’t help myself after reading your profile. What do you say we get to know each other better?
50. My friends say I’m too picky, but I’m picky for a reason. I’m looking for someone perfect for me. Are you that person?
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51. Spontaneous weekend trip! Where would you go?
52. If you could tell your younger self one thing, what would it be? I’d tell my younger self to stop procrastinating so much.
53. Are you a dog or cat person? I’m deciding what pet should I get.
54. What‘s your favorite place to go on vacation? I‘m thinking about planning a trip soon.
55. What music do you like? I‘m always looking for new music to listen to.
56. What are you currently reading? I just finished this great book and I‘m looking for something new.
57. Your friends describe you in 3 words – go!
58. If we were strangers meeting at a bar, how would I pick you up?
59. What’s the funniest message you’ve ever received here on POF? Do you want to hear mine?
60. On a scale from 1 to 10, how addicted are you to TikTok?
61. Are you the type to ask for a date or wait to be asked?
62. How long does it take you to get ready for a dinner date?
63. If you could describe yourself in 2 emojis, what would they be?
64. Have you ever had a dream about someone before meeting them IRL
65. Tell me one stupid thing you’ve done that you still laugh about.
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66. Are you the kind of person who goes out without planning or do you like to plan everything in advance?
67. What is the first thing you would do if you were stranded on a deserted?
68. Are dogs really man’s best friend, or are they just using us for food?
69. I was thinking of going skydiving this weekend and I was wondering if you would like to join me? Or at the very least you can just watch :).
70. I‘m not your average guy. I bet you can‘t guess what my favorite animal is.
71. If you could be any comic book character, who would you be?
72. I‘m not sure if you like snowboarding or not, but I just got back from Whistler and it was amazing! Did you do anything fun this winter?
73. So I hear that you‘re a bit of a foodie. I‘m the same way! I love trying new restaurants and dishes, and I would love to have someone to share that experience with. If you‘re interested, let me know!
74. Are you a fan of any sports teams? I‘m a huge fan of the Edmonton Oilers and I‘m always looking for someone to go to games with. If you‘re interested, let me know!
75. I‘m guessing you like to keep things light and fun, just like me! What‘s your favorite comic book?
76. I don‘t know if you‘re still single but I figured I‘d take my chances.
77. I‘m not sure if you are familiar with the comic book character Deadpool, but he is my spirit animal. If you are a fan too, we should definitely be friends.
78. On a scale from 1 to 10, how much do you dirty jokes? Because I am an 11.
79. What is your favorite kind of cheese? I am a huge fan of brie but I also like more obscure types like gorgonzola and manchego.
80. When was the last time you did something for the first time? I went skydiving last weekend and it was an incredible but scary experience.
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81. I bet you $20 I can guess what you are wearing right now.
82. I was going to say something cheesy like your profile photo caught my eye, but I couldn’t think of anything that would do justice to how beautiful you are.
83. If I could have one superpower, it would be the ability to read people’s minds. That way I would know if you’re as amazing as I think you are.
84. I’m the type of person who is always up for anything, and I think you are too. Let’s go on an adventure together and see where it takes us.
85. I bet you’re tired of hearing the same old pick–up lines. I’m not going to use one on you, but I would like to chat with you sometime.
86. You seem like a really down-to-earth person. I think we could have a lot of fun together if we ever met up.
87. You have a really unique style, and I love it! I bet you’re a lot of fun to talk to, so let’s chat sometime.
88. You seem like someone who is always up for a good time. I know I am, so let’s meet up and see if we hit it off.
89. I was going to message you and ask for your number, but I didn’t want to seem too forward. So instead, I’m just going to give it to you and hope you call or text me.
90. If I could offer you one piece of advice, it would be to never give up on your dreams. And if you need someone to talk to about those dreams, I’m here for you.
91. I’ve been told that I have a lot of energy, and I’m always looking for new ways to burn it off. If you’re up for an adventure, I’d love to take you on one sometime.
92. You seem like the kind of girl who is always up for a good time. I just wanted to let you know that I’m available if you ever want to have some fun.
93. They say that laughter is the best medicine, so if you’re ever feeling down, just give me a call and I’ll try to make you laugh.
94. If there’s one thing I know, it’s that life is too short to waste time on things that don’t make you happy. You look like someone who knows how to enjoy life, and I would love to get to know you better.
95. I’m not sure if you’re aware, but you’re quite beautiful. It would be a shame if I didn’t at least try to get to know you better.
96. I have a confession to make…I’ve been stalking your profile for the past week and I just had to message you.
97. I’m not sure what it is about you, but you seem like a really interesting person. I’d love to get to know you better.
98. I was just thinking about how awesome it would be to meet someone like you. If you’re interested, I’d love to get to know you better.
99. Are you looking for someone to share all your adventures with? Because I am! Let me know if you’re interested to chat!
100. Life is too short to not take chances, so here goes…I’d love to get to know you better if you’re interested.
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If you decide to use any of the messages above, please don’t forget to change them slightly to make them sound more unique and convey your personality.
Whenever sending messages and not getting replies, remember that not every girl will be attracted to you, and this is completely normal.
Since dating is a numbers game don’t tie yourself to one dating website.
If you need some ideas, Zoosk is great for casual dating and eharmony is a good option if you are looking for something more serious.
6 Tips to Get More Responses on POF
1. Make a Good Dating Profile
This is the first and most important step.
You need to make sure that your profile is complete and interesting enough to grab the attention of other singles on POF.
Don’t leave it blank or say something like “If you want to know more, message me”.
2. Use a Catchy Headline
A good headline will help you to stand out and get more attention.
Here are a few examples:
- One-click and you’re in…
- You will never get bored with me
- I am not just a pretty face
- You won’t be disappointed
- Don’t be shy – say hello!
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3. Use Good Photos
Photos are the first thing that most people will see when visiting your dating profile.
Avoid uploading anything that will show you in a negative light.
4. Use Interesting Conversation Starters
As we already discussed using unique conversation starters will help you in getting more replies on POF.
5. Be Positive
No one wants to talk to someone who is negative all the time.
Try to be upbeat and others will be more likely to message you.
6. Use Proper Grammar
Some people will not message you back if your dating profile is full of spelling errors.
7. Try other dating sites
If you are not having much luck with POF, it might be worth trying a few other dating sites like Zoosk or eharmony to increase your chances.
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