Best 170 Free Dating Messages, Openers and Conversation Starters – Part 1

The key to getting the responses – and the most difficult part of online dating – is having an awesome opener.

• Tired of sending dozens of messages on Tinder, Bumble, or Eharmony without receiving a single reply?
• Have no idea what kind of first messages girls like?
• Spending half an hour to write just one message and still no replies?
• The only messages you can come up with are “Hey, how are you?” or “How was your day?”

We decided to release our 170 dating openers and conversation starters that will help you to get more dates.

You can use these unique dating messages on any dating website or app you choose – Tinder, POF, OkCupid, Match and etc.

PS: Several messages were on POF. See examples of the messages we emailed to girls and the replies that we got!

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As you can see from the examples above, having a unique opener can make a huge difference in whether you will get a reply or not on dating sites.

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Note: To increase the number of replies, try to personalize the messages below to fit your personality. Good luck with your online dating journey!!!

Examples of Dating Messages, Openers, and Conversation Starters

1. Hey Kate! Nice weather we are having lately. I took a peek at your bio and you caught my interest!

So a bit about myself – I work full-time as a firefighter. I really like my job and I always feel fulfilled when my day is done.

When I am not fighting fires I like to ride my bike or just hang out with my friends on a patio. I am also really into hiking; I think it’s a great way to stay in shape and get tan.

Send me a message sometime!

2. Hi there! I know you’re a little bit older than I am, but your “about me” was just so breathtakingly beautiful, that I think I’ve fallen madly in love. How are you?

3. You have gorgeous hair! I’m kind of a sucker for long blonde hair and a gorgeous smile!

Anyways I’m on here to hopefully find a solid relationship that will last.

I work very hard to be where I am and I do have to focus a lot on work. But when you work hard to be in a place where you can say you’re happy, you tend to find missing things in your life and when you are alone time seems to take forever to go by.

I guess what I am saying is during the times I’m alone I’d like to have someone there by my side to just share stories with, watch movies, and laugh or hide when a scary movie is on.

What is your story? Why did you decide to join this dating website?

4. Hi there, I just logged into my account and noticed that you are online and wanted to say that you look very photogenic in your photos.

I realize that you probably receive dozens of messages from guys, who are only interested in one thing. So if you are looking for a guy who wants a relationship, don’t be shy to write back!

5. Hi Jane, my name is Mike, how are things? I’ve never golfed, but I’ve always really wanted to try it! Would you give me a lesson someday?

6. Hey, I’m Bob, how’s it going?

You seem like a fun and outgoing girl – not to mention you look very adorable in your photos.

A quick intro about myself – I’m currently working in SFO as a software engineer, I have a one-year-old poodle pup, and love sports and electronic music.

Anyways take a look at my profile and if you’re interested send me a message and we’ll take it from there.

7. Hey Kate, my name is Jake. I am 23 and live in Toronto. I am really into sports, especially hockey, and I also enjoy hiking during the summer. What are you studying?

8. Hey how is it going? I am a big fan of hockey as well, did you ever play it professionally?

I started skating when I was four years old. I play, coach, and watch it!

How is your day going?

9. Hi Louise, I read your profile and you seem to be very friendly and ambitious!

I’m really into sports as well and soccer is my favorite! I am currently a student in college studying engineering.

Where do you study nursing?

10. Hey, I’m Logan! You’ve got a very pretty smile and you seem to be a very smart and friendly girl.

I love to travel but I don’t do it enough. I hope to do it much more in the future when I finish my studies.

Obviously, I’m a huge sports fan as well hahaha.

Who’s your favorite hockey player?

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11. Hey Anna, I am a little shocked to see someone as pretty as you are on here, I’m sure your inbox is pretty full.

How’s it going so far today? I am Jake btw!

12. Hey! I think life is all about sharing stories together, about actually living stories instead of just reading about them in books or watching them on screens.

You seem like an interesting person worth getting to know. I’m sure you get tons of messages on here, but I’d love to learn more about you and see if we can write at least a few pages of a good story together.

Looking forward to hearing from you!

13. Hi Ashley, how are you today? I am Nate!

I found your profile impressive and would love to get to know you better. I am looking to meet someone nice and interesting like you!

I love to travel, work out, watch movies, play sports, and spend time outdoors! I travel a lot and travel a lot for work and pleasure!

I was in Paris this past summer. Have you been to Europe? How is this site treating you?

14. Hey, how is it going Annie? You have incredible eyes and a smile. Seriously don’t mean that as a pickup line, just being honest.

15. You are so pretty! When are you dropping out of school to start your modeling career?

That was lame – I honestly just wanted to compliment you. I am Bob, how are you?

16. Hey Kate, what compelled such a pretty lady like you to join this site full of randy middle-aged men and teens? Surely you have no problem getting guys?

17. I don’t mean to sound cheesy but your eyes can steal someone’s heart!

Here is a little info about me – I am really into sports, when I was younger I always wanted to be a pro wrestler so I did some gymnastics back then as well and played soccer for years.

If you are interested, let me know and maybe we can go out sometime or just hang out so we can get to know each other better.

If you rather get to know each other over messages or texting first I am fine with it too, if it will make you more comfortable, whatever makes that beautiful smile of yours come out!

18. Hi! I saw your profile and I would love to chat and get to know each other.

You seem like a fun, intelligent, beautiful woman. I want to find a girl that I can have a long-term relationship with but am also willing to take things slow and see if we really connect.

I recently graduated from college but I am still looking to find an opening in my field, I read whenever I have free time, hang out with a few close friends and I love to watch and play sports.

Not sure what else I should say without ruining everything about me for you, but if I’ve caught your interest at all I’d love to hear from you!

19. Personality comes before looks or looks before personality? What do you think?

20. Hey how’s it going? So I have seen you on my “my matches” section a couple of times so I thought I would send you a message to see what this website sees that I can’t just from looking at your profile. Obviously, you are attractive, but I’m looking for more than just physical attraction.

21. Hey, how are you?

So about me, I’m not photogenic and I hate it.

I’m really into sports – I played hockey and baseball as a kid. I also love snowboarding and wakeboarding.

As for personality, I would think I’m funny, always trying to make people laugh even if it embarrasses me (hard to do though).

Anyways if you want to chat, don’t be shy to write back!

22. Hi, my name is James! Wanted to tell you that you have pretty eyes, but once I saw your profile I noticed we have a few things in common. How is your day going?

24. Hey! My name is Mike. Just from reading your profile, it looks like we have a lot in common!

I guess I will start with being well educated, as I do have a degree in business. While I was attending university I was really involved ( I’m a bit of a nerd) and after graduation, I was offered a job so I’m currently working in admissions.

I can’t express enough that I’m a huge sports fan. I love to watch and go to as many games as I can.

I don’t get out much to socialize because of work but when I do, I’m more of a nice seating cozy setting bar/pub kind of guy. I guess that also answers why I’m on here lol, but anyway I hope you like what you see and maybe we can talk sometime.

25. Hey wow you are absolutely the most beautiful girl I’ve seen. And from your profile, you seem very genuine and down to earth.

Most girls here just go on about partying and drinking but you seem very mature. How is your day going?

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26. Hey, how’s it going? What school are you going to for nursing? Any plans after you’re done school?

27. Hey there! How are you? You are really attractive and you must be getting tons of messages. So what does it take for a decent guy to get a reaction out of you?

28. Blonde hair with blue eyes… Aren’t you society’s perfect picture of a girl?

What brings you to a site like this – I mean it shouldn’t be hard for you to pick up the guys in whatever room you step in.

29. Hey, I’m Jamie, I play hockey, race motocross, and compete in freestyle snowboarding.

I live in the country and enjoy staying active. If you think we would kick it off, I’d love to chat with you!

30. Hi Betty, I primarily play baseball but enjoy watching a lot of other sports as well. I learned baseball when I was young and I’m not as good nowadays but still like to play it for fun with friends.

How long have you been into gymnastics and tennis?

31. Hey, how are you Kate my name is Mike! I’m 21 and I’m currently at university studying biology, I am into all kinds of sports, especially snowboarding!

I like to think of myself as a respectful guy who knows how to treat a beautiful lady like yourself, hopefully, I’ll get the chance to show you that!

32. Wow you are cute! I just thought you should know! How are you doing this evening?

33. Hey! How are you? You are so adorable!

5 questions for you. I will give you a response to them as well

• What is your favorite thing about winter?
• What is your favorite food?
• Do you like dogs?
• What is your favorite movie?
• What is your favorite drink when you go out?

34. Hey Kate, one of the reasons I am messaging you is because you look like a total sweetheart!

My name is Mike I am 25 and looking for a sweetheart like yourself! I definitely would love to get to know more about you.

How about we go for a coffee or a glass of wine whenever you’re free?

35. Don’t hate me! But I’m not going to lie when I first saw the thumbnail of your profile picture I thought your profile was fake because I thought it was a picture of Lindsay Lohan back when she was blonde haha

36. Hi! You seem great! My name is Jared. I’m a fit, fun-loving, educated, employed, independent and funny guy.

I’d really like to get to know you. May I apply for the position of “faint possibility”? What do you say?

37. Hey Jessica, how are you? My name is Tim. Here are 5 random facts about me and one of them is a lie.

Guess which one is not true:

• A) I have been electrocuted… and lived.
• B) I have jumped off a perfectly good mountain… and lived.
• C) My favorite book growing up was Watership Down.
• D) I have sailed on a tall ship around half the world for the better part of two years… and lived.
• E) I danced in front of over 500 high schoolers for a Halloween prank… and lived.

38. Laurel, when you hit the gym do you become a cardio bunny like the other 90% of females?

39. Hey Kate, I saw my doctor yesterday and he told me I’m lacking Vitamin U. Think you could help me out?

40. Well, on paper you’re everything I could ever ask for and then some. It doesn’t hurt that you’re gorgeous as well. Check out my profile, if you think we’d get along I’d love to hear from you.

41. Hey Betty, I’m Tim! You seem pretty cool, and I think we might get along.

Currently, I’m working in construction while I try to plan some traveling in the summer months, I’ve finished my first degree (still undecided about a second), and in general, I’m a fun-loving guy with a good head on my shoulders.

I’m a music lover, and one trip through my Spotify Playlist will probably leave you giggling with the mix I’ve got on there. I also love good TV and movies (I know, who doesn’t?), and believe it or not, I do my fair share of reading too.

I like to keep active by playing hockey regularly, going camping, spending time outdoors, and playing most other sports.

Anyways, that’s just a little introduction, but there’s plenty more to know. But in hopes of not boring you, I’ll cut the message off here. I look forward to chatting with you!

42. Hey Ashley, I think I would enjoy your company so I’ve decided to message you. My name is Mike, I recently moved to Vancouver to accept a new position within my company.

I’m looking for a girl who loves the outdoors, will come camping with me and not complain, is respectful of the environment, active, and knows how to have a good time.

I am a great guy with a lot to offer, the type of guy who will bring you to amazing places, show you fascinating new things, teach you a ridiculous amount about nature, and always keep you smiling.

Anyways I’ll keep this short, I would love to chat and get to know you, let me know if you’re interested.

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43. Hey! You’re cute, I’m cute why not fight crime together? Lol too much? Where do you plan on traveling this summer?

44. Hey how’s it going? I’m a pretty active guy. I have been playing sports my whole life. You sound like a really nice girl. What kind of music do you like to listen to?

45. Hey Kate you have the most stunning eyes I have ever seen! I love sports and I play everything from pool to soccer. What is your background?

46. Hey here is a quick quiz to get to know you better: 1-sun or snow 2-circle or square 3-sushi or pasta 4-cat or dog 5-beer or wine

47. Good evening Stacy, I’m Tom. I hope you don’t mind but I noticed you were online and I wanted to stop in, and say hello.

Your profile photo drew me to you but reading what you had to write has made me want to message you.

It’s nice to meet someone who’s hard-working and independent. How are you enjoying nursing so far and where are you studying?

I am an honest, educated guy, and definitely into sports. I love coaching at my school! I hope to chat and get to know you better!

48. You know, you might be asked to leave soon. You’re making other girls look really bad.

49. Hey Kate your eyes and smile are intoxicating – I am not going to lie. How’s your week going?

50. Has anyone ever told you that you are the epitome of the pulchritudinous female form?

I love sports and traveling too! What are some of your favorite places you’ve been to or want to travel to in the future? I’m Jake btw.

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