More than 30% of people end up cheating on their girlfriend or boyfriend.
There are many reasons why people cheat but unfortunately, in many cases, cheating can ruin a relationship.
Most people cheat when they feel lonely, or angry at their partner or their relationship becomes boring and predictable.
That’s when they start fantasizing about getting together with someone else.
When you begin to feel like this that is when you might end up cheating on your spouse.
If you find yourself in this situation, there are a couple of different paths that you can take.
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Ask for Forgiveness
The first option is to be honest and tell your spouse as soon as it happened.
Try to make them understand that it was a mistake and that you are sorry that it happened.
The two of you can talk about what events made you stray and it will be up to your partner if he or she can forgive you or not.
Try to seek forgiveness from your spouse so that the two of you can continue to move forward with your relationship.
You both will have to work on getting trust back into your relationship.
Some couples end up getting counseling and are able to leave the affair in the past.
The one thing that you should not try to do is make your relationship like it was before the incident happened because obviously, something was not working so things need to change.
You need to figure out what was going wrong and why you felt the need to cheat on your partner.
Before you can make either of these decisions, you have to ask yourself a few questions.
The first being is what do you want from your relationship?
It is important to realize that it was your decision to cheat and you cannot blame your partner.
Do not say that you’re sorry if you are only sorry that you were caught.
It’s also important to remember that you can’t force someone to be with you once you cheated on them.
A strong, trustful, and fruitful relationship is definitely possible after cheating; but only if you are both willing to put in the work.
The next option is to continue with this affair, but if you choose this option, you should know that you are risking breaking your spouse’s heart if they find out.
Can you live with this guilt?
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Break Up With Your Girlfriend or Boyfriend
If you actually fell in love with someone else and ended up cheating on your partner, the third option is to break up with your current partner without telling them about your affair.
This way you might be able to remain friends with your ex even though you may not end on the best terms.
It is hard to dump someone without making them feel bad about it.
However, there are several things you can do to make the breakup as painless as possible.
1. Wait for the Right Moment
If you just had a big fight, it might be a good time to start hinting that maybe you are not good together.
Don’t say it straight to his or her face but mention that you guys are always fighting and you think it is because you are just too different and want different things in life.
You have different priorities and since neither of you can sacrifice, your relationship is not working, and even worse, you are just dragging each other down.
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2. Tell Them That You Don’t Feel Excited About the Relationship Anymore
Open up to your partner and try to hint that physical attraction is gone, but it is not his or her fault.
Tell them that it is you and you just need a break to figure out what is happening with you.
If you can, you can also blame your lack of attraction on other external factors such as work, family, friends, etc.
You are just too stressed out and something needs to change.
3. Propose to Take a Break to Figure Things Out
Having a break might help your partner realize that there is no attraction left and you are just used to being together.
4. Tell Them That You Still Care and Want to Stay Friends
Start by saying that you still like him or her but you don’t feel the same attraction anymore.
Tell them that they deserve someone better because you don’t feel physically attracted anymore and you had to say this or otherwise it would be unfair to them.
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5. Things to Avoid When Trying to Break Up
- Making your partner jealous by hanging out with other guys or girls in front of them.
- Getting angry. If you say that you want to break up, your partner might get angry and even start blaming you. Just understand that he or she is upset and be supportive instead of arguing with them.
Breakups are some of the worst things that can happen to anyone, but if you fell in love with someone else it is the right thing to do.
By making sure you don’t hurt your partner’s self-esteem while breaking up with him or her, you both will be better off and your and his friends will still treat you with respect.
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