Tinder. Why some people are so successful on Tinder while others can’t even get a single reply?
What exactly Tinder pros do to get dozens of phone numbers and dates in a single day?
Well as you guessed your physical appearance matters a lot on Tinder but being attractive is not the only way to be successful.
Here are a few tips and tricks to help you out.
5 Ways to Message on Tinder to Get More Dates
1. Don’t wait, initiate
It might be obvious, but the first step for getting messages on Tinder is to initiate the contact yourself.
Don’t be shy, take the first step, and send that first message to that pretty girl or a hot guy.
Show some interest, and more importantly, show some confidence.
Being shy might be cute, but you’ll have a hell of a time meeting people.
So set aside the shyness and make that first step.
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2. Say something interesting
Hey. What’s up? How are you doing? How’s your day?
Seen these messages before? Maybe a bit bored with answering them? Yeah.
The majority of Tinder messages are plain-jane icebreakers with no creativity and, frankly, no distinction from the rest of the pack.
No wonder messages like these get lost, forgotten, or ignored.
People on Tinder get plenty of messages every day, especially if they’re attractive.
You don’t want to be one of the dozen small talks they get all the time.
When making that first move, open with something original that can spark a conversation.
What sort of movies are they into? Where is their profile photo from?
If you’re strapped for ideas, here are a few examples to get you started.
The most important thing is to stand out.
No one wants to have the 100th conversation on how their morning is going or how come the weather is cold again.
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3. Don’t compliment them on their body
This might seem contradictory.
You are on Tinder, after all, and everyone knows what you’re there for.
But compliments on physical appearance are not very original, especially on apps like Tinder.
If a pic shows it off, they’ve probably heard it already.
And the worst compliment of all? “You’re hot!”
Or the gentler variety, “You’re beautiful!”
It might seem friendly, but everyone heard it before.
So instead try to shift focus onto their personality.
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4. When it’s dying, let it die
Is the girl not responding to your messages?
Does the guy seem unengaged in the conversation?
It’s better to call it a day and move on.
Stop messaging someone who’s not responding, especially if it’s been days.
If the message screen is filled up mostly with your messages, something is wrong.
It can come off as desperate to respond too quickly, or respond with too much when the other party only sends a text or two.
If you continue messaging while not getting any responses back, it just gets creepy and desperate.
And worst of all, “Why aren’t you replying?”.
Never try to guilt or bully someone with a message pointing out their silence.
It’s clingy, uncomfortable, and basically an automatic deal-breaker.
It can be hard to let a match go, especially if you really like them, but you can’t force them to like you back.
If they aren’t interested, move on.
There’s no point in wasting your time or energy on them, and you’ll avoid the embarrassment.
5. Take it outside
Once you’ve got the conversation going, try to get a date as soon as possible.
Maybe don’t make your second message “So when can we meet up?” but try to push it in that direction.
Tinder emphasizes speed, and people are likely to move on if you are taking too much time to ask them out.
So if you followed our tips, landed a match, and got that engaging conversation: jump on it.
Capitalize on your success and get a date.
If you are still not having luck on Tinder after following all the steps we discussed today, it is possible that Tinder is just not for you.
Tinder is often used for hookups and if you are looking for something more long-term you might have better luck on other dating sites.
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