If you are new to the party scene, meeting people and especially attractive guys can be intimidating.
Fortunately, parties are the perfect places to relax and hook up with guys if you do it right.
But maybe you’ve been to a few parties and things didn’t go exactly the way you planned?
Or maybe you don‘t even know where to start?
What do you say? What do you do? Why no one is trying to chat me up? Am I not pretty enough?
These are all questions that we have asked ourselves at some point.
Talking to anyone for the first time can be intimidating, and doing it with someone you find attractive is even more challenging.
That‘s why we wrote this article – to provide a guide on how to hook up with guys at parties.
We define “hooking up” as anything from a casual conversation to flirting and even getting physical.
We will discuss the importance of having a relaxed attitude, approaching guys in an appropriate manner, being direct but not too pushy about it, utilizing body language effectively, and making sure you don’t forget to have fun.
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How to Hook up With a Guy at a Party?
Step 1: Get Yourself in the Mood
Before going to the party, try to make yourself feel powerful and confident.
Put on high heels. Wear a racy dress. Parade your Lord of the Rings replica sword around the kitchen.
It doesn’t matter, as long as it gets you pumped and ready to dominate.
Confidence will be important later on, so soak up as much of it as you can now.
Once that’s done, it is time to go and meet some guys!
When you get to the party, be careful how you position yourself there.
No one wants to party alone, but having too many girlfriends around you can make you look unapproachable.
Guys get intimidated by large numbers, and the bigger the girls’ group, the more scared he will be to approach you.
Go with a friend, but never more than one or two.
Even better try to go with a friend who can be your wing woman and your “support system” when you need it.
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Step 2: Dominate
You might be thinking “I’m not funny. I’m not charming. I can’t do this!”
That leads to our next step: Try to be confident!
The shy insecure wallflower often goes ignored, but how can you blame people when you seem so hard to approach?
It can be tough to come out of your shell, but people will gravitate to you if you show there’s something to gravitate to.
No one can really see you in the corner.
There’s a second upside to confidence: It’s hot as hell.
Confidence takes the pressure off the guy to engage and gets the ball rolling.
So, be confident, be bold, and if you can’t be that, “fake it till you make it”.
The worst thing that can happen is a bit of awkwardness in front of a boy you don’t know and won’t see again.
That’s a small risk to take.
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Step 3: Keep It Going
Once you have found the confidence to talk to a guy, keep talking.
Don’t take a passive role in the conversation. Don’t wait for him to pop questions, or crack a joke.
You’ll lose the momentum and you might lose his interest as well when the conversation becomes boring or even worse turns into an awkward silence.
Ask what brings him here and who he knows.
If he starts asking about you, try telling a funny story and be enthusiastic.
Be witty, make a joke, be honest, and be willing to embarrass yourself.
Just be you – well, a more confident version of you, maybe.
Keep your eyes up and on him. Try to smile a bit as well.
And don’t be afraid to compliment him if you find him attractive.
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Step 4: Know When to Fold ‘Em
Finally, we come to the last step.
If the guy doesn’t seem responsive, or if he isn’t asking much about you or looks uninterested, then it might be time to move on.
Don’t try to force it to happen if he doesn’t seem to care.
It can be frustrating, even a bit humiliating, but you can’t coerce anyone into liking you.
Once a guy decided he’s not into you, convincing him takes more time and effort than finding someone new.
Remember, it’s not because of you!
You will not click with everyone, and there always will be that guy who thinks he’s too good or just isn’t interested.
But as the cliché goes, there’s plenty of fish in the sea.
Move on, find someone new. You’ll hit more than you miss.
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