Are you tired of being single while all your girlfriends have a boyfriend or even a husband?
If you struggle to find a boyfriend, it is likely that whatever you tried up to this point to meet guys is not working for you.
Nowadays the fastest way to find a boyfriend is by taking advantage of online dating.
Times have changed and most couples meet online and if you are not taking advantage of online dating it might be the reason why you are still single.
Is online dating the only way to get a boyfriend?
Of course not, but meeting guys in real life will take more time and you will need to have enough courage to approach guys which might be hard especially if you are an introvert or shy.
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What are the Advantages of Meeting Guys Online?
1. It is much faster to get a date with a guy online
You can meet a guy online today and have a date tomorrow.
Another cool thing about online dating is that you don’t have to meet in person for your first date and instead use video chatting platforms like Zoom.
This way you can quickly decide if the guy you are chatting with is a good match for you before meeting in person. This will save you both time and money.
Unfortunately, when meeting guys offline it will take longer to get a date unless you start to proactively approach attractive guys that you meet during the day.
Waiting for guys to approach you however, is not an effective strategy because you don’t have any control over who you meet.
2. More guys to choose from
When you are online you can chat with thousands of great guys. When offline, you are limited to whoever you meet throughout the day.
3. Much easier to get a better sense of who a guy is before going on a date
When meeting guys online, you can take your time and get to know a guy until you are comfortable with meeting them in real life.
In addition to chatting on a dating site, don’t be afraid to call and video chat with him before going on a date.
4. Meeting guys online is cheaper than going to bars or clubs
Some women complain that online dating is expensive but if you compare it to the cost of going to a club for a single night out you might find out that it is actually pretty reasonable.
If you don’t want to spend any money, you can either try meeting guys on free dating sites or sign up for a trial period with a paid dating site and then cancel your membership just before your trial ends.
Here are more reasons why you should try online dating to meet guys.
Now let’s take a look at the step-by-step guide for getting a boyfriend online.
What is the Best Dating Site to Find a Boyfriend?
The first step in starting your online search for a boyfriend is to join a good dating website.
Today there are thousands of dating sites and apps in all kinds of niches from singles who are into traveling to Christian singles, however, from my personal experience, it is better to stick to bigger dating websites.
Niche dating sites might not have enough singles especially if you live in a smaller town.
Here I will list the few dating apps and sites that work the best for most people.
Best Free Dating Sites
Tinder – is one of the most popular dating apps. Mostly used by younger singles. Great if you just want to date without getting serious.
Bumble – is similar to Tinder with the main difference being that women are the ones who are supposed to message guys.
OkCupid – you can meet people of all ages there but the quality of guys is low.
Plenty of Fish (POF) – similar to OkCupid.
Best Paid Dating Sites
Eharmony – is one of the best dating sites if you are looking for a serious boyfriend or even a husband.
EliteSingles – used by career-oriented singles looking for a serious relationship.
SilverSingles – great dating site for meeting 50+ singles.
ChristianCafe – a dating site for meeting Christian guys.
Are Paid Dating Sites Better Than Free Ones?
The number one difference between large paid dating sites and free dating apps is that singles are usually more serious about dating when they pay for a membership.
There are also usually more bots and fake accounts on free dating sites because anyone can create an account.
The best way to decide if you should join a free or paid dating site is to figure out what you are looking for.
If you are looking for a serious boyfriend who you can marry at some point, try subscription-based dating sites. If you just want to have fun without much commitment, free online dating sites might work for you.
However, there are also couples that meet on free dating sites and get married so if you are not sure try both and see what works for you.
How to Write a Dating Profile That Will Get You More Dates?
When creating a dating profile there are dos and don’ts. You don’t want to be too cheesy and you don’t want to be too basic.
Your profile should show guys that you are a friendly girl who knows how to have fun but is also serious enough for a long-term relationship.
You want to create a dating profile that is specific to you and your personality to attract the kind of guys you want to date.
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Display confidence with your dating profile
You can use your bio to show guys that you are confident and will not settle down for someone who doesn’t fit what you are looking for. Unfortunately, many women use language that displays a lack of confidence.
Saying things like “I hope” in your bio implies that you are seeking and “hoping” that things will turn out ok. It makes you sound like you haven’t had any luck in the past.
Many guys find confidence attractive and it can be difficult to portray that through a dating profile without meeting in person so the language you use is important.
Also, avoid mentioning anything on your profile related to flings and one-night stands to keep away the guys that will just waste your time.
Saying that you are not looking for a one-night stand on your dating profile doesn’t work.
Most girls who are mentioning that they are not looking for flings are actually interested in flings when you meet them in person and most guys know this.
Use your bio to grab guys’ attention
Some men might find you attractive but if your profile is empty or boring it will be harder for them to come up with something to message you. This might result in fewer guys messaging you.
Try to make it easier for men to send that first message. If you mention that you like camping in your profile or running 5K’s, then the guys can message you with something like “hey I love camping too, what places have you been to?” or “Hey! Maybe we can meet up at this 5k happening this weekend!”
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Skip the cheesy quotes
Try to skip the cheesy love quote or song lyric that you probably did not write yourself.
You don’t want to be like every other girl – be original and be yourself instead!
The same goes for captions. Don’t update your bio or post with a song lyric from the most popular song of the month that everyone is using to create captions. That can be a turn-off for some guys.
Be creative and keep it simple. You can still use song quotes every once in a while but don’t make it a habit.
Don’t brag on your dating profile
Nobody wants to hear about how much money you have right off the bat! Also, no one wants to see constant pictures of you flashing your expensive stuff. It shows that you aren’t very humble and this can be a bad first impression.
It is fine to wear expensive stuff but don’t be cocky about it!
What Photos to Use for Your Dating Profile?
Uploading great photos is the next important step. As you probably know uploading suggestive photos will get you many messages from guys who are just looking to get laid. If you are not looking for a boyfriend, avoid uploading photos where you are wearing a swimsuit or bikini.
The next big NO is uploading photos with other guys. I would also avoid photos with your girlfriends (especially if they are good-looking).
Make sure that there are a couple of photos showing your full body or otherwise most guys will assume that you are hiding something.
No matter how well-written your profile is if the pictures are not up to par chances are guys will just skip over and not even read your profile.
Dating profiles are nine times more likely to succeed if they have great profile pictures. You must use your profile picture to express the type of person you are and the type of lifestyle you have.
Research has shown that photos that show more than just the face work the best in attracting men. It allows guys to get a sense of your body type and style.
How Do You Start a Conversation With a Guy Online?
Many girls are too shy to contact guys first and that’s why they end up going on a date with someone they might not be fully interested in.
Contacting guys first will give you much more control and if you see a profile of the guy you think you might like don’t wait until he messages you because by that time another girl might get him.
4 examples of how to message guys online
- Comment on his photos – “Love the photos from your vacation, where was it taken?”
- Ask him a question about his interests – “What’s your go-to spot for skiing?”
- Use a pick-up line – most girls are too shy to use pick-up lines so if you do, it will be easier for you to stand out – “Friday night priorities: Movies, studying, or beers?”
- Ask him about his day – “Hey Tom, how is your day so far? Any exciting plans for the weekend?”
Here are all 170 dating messages that you can use when messaging guys online.
Another good read – 17 Simple Tinder Opening Lines to Use on Guys to Get More Dates
How to Ask a Guy for His Phone Number?
Should you ask for a phone number or should you wait until the guy asks you first?
I would personally wait a few days to avoid coming across as too desperate.
In most cases, the guy will be the one who asks you for your phone number and then asks you on a date.
If he doesn’t, it is either he is not into you or he is too shy.
In that case, ask for his number by telling him that you prefer to chat on WhatsApp. After chatting on WhatsApp, tell him to call you. Alternatively, ask if he wants to hang out on Zoom.
If the guy doesn’t want to call you, then it should raise a red flag. There are a lot of fake profiles on almost every single dating site and if something doesn’t feel right, listen to your gut.
Meeting a Guy in Person and Going on a Date
The entire process from joining a dating website to chatting with a guy you are interested in on the phone and then going on the date shouldn’t take more than a week.
In most cases, 2-3 days of chatting is more than enough before meeting in person. You don’t want to waste too much time chatting with someone online only to find out that there is zero attraction when you meet in real life.
Where to go for the first date?
The best first date ideas are getting a coffee, or ice cream, going for a walk in a park, or going for a few drinks. These dates are cheap and you can always leave if things don’t work out.
Have fun and don’t feel bad if the first guy you meet is not your type. It takes time to find the right guy who can become your boyfriend.
Should You Kiss or Sleep With a Guy on a First Date?
If you are looking for a boyfriend you should avoid kissing on the first date and instead end a date with a friendly hug. However, if the guy goes for a kiss and you actually like him kiss him on the cheek.
Sleeping on the first date is a big NO if you are looking for a boyfriend and not a one-night stand. Wait until you are fully comfortable before getting physical with a guy. If he is the right guy, he will wait for you.
If he can’t wait and threatens to leave you if you don’t sleep with him, then he is definitely not boyfriend material.
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