Why He Doesn’t Call or Texts You After the First Date?


You just had a great date and everything seemed perfect, but for some reason, the guy you went on a date with, didn’t call or even texted you. Should you just forget him or is there anything that you can do? First of all, let’s try to examine what might have happened.

He doesn’t want to come across as desperate

If you don’t get a text or call one or two days after a date it is possible that the guy is just waiting to contact you because he doesn’t want to come across as too desperate. Yes, that might sound weird but many relationship books teach that the guy should wait a few days before contacting someone after a date. Does this mean that he is a player? Probably not, it is possible that he just didn’t have enough dating experience, so he relies on dating material available online to figure out what to do.

Did YOU know?

1) Only 9 percent of women and 2 percent of men found a relationship at a bar or club

2) 38% of singles are using online dating

3) One in six marriages now begin online

He is waiting for you to call or text him first

The second reason why he didn’t call you is that he is waiting for you to contact him. Yes in our society where most girls want to have fifty-fifty type of relationship, many guys believe that girl would text a guy after a date if she liked him. Development of the dating apps such as Bumble is not helping in changing this philosophy. If you are not familiar with Bumble, it is a dating app where only women can initiate the first contact. What I am trying to convey here is that you should be asking yourself why you didn’t contact the guy if it was two days after you two met. It is completely acceptable for girls to initiate the first contact especially if you already had a date.

The guy is too shy to text or call you

If you noticed that the guy is too shy during the date, you will have to take more initiative. It is possible that he is too shy to contact you thinking that you didn’t like him. This brings us to the point number one – if you liked a guy but he didn’t text or call or you, contact him instead of making any assumptions.

He is too busy to talk to you

Doesn’t happen that often and most guys will find a time to send a text no matter how busy they are if they are into you.

He is only looking to get laid

It is also possible that you are dating the wrong types of guys. If you meet guys on apps such as Tinder, you might soon realize that most of them are just looking for a quick fling or casual relationship. That is the main reason why many guys will not call girls after one night stand. They already got everything they wanted from a girl and probably already moved to seducing someone else. If on another hand, you meet a guy who is looking for a long term relationship he will always call or text you after the first date. The best way to avoid meeting guys who are just looking to get laid is to join premium dating website such Match or Eharmony. View pics for free now on Match.com, the #1 dating site!

The guy liked you, but just as a friend

It happens when the guy liked your personality but there was no spark and he is not physically attracted to you. In this case, he may still call you or he may even ask you to meet up with him. If you suspect that he likes you just as a friend there is still time to change things around, especially if you just met him once. You should be aware however that the more “dates” you spent as a friend, the fewer chances that he will eventually fall in love with you.

He is just not that into you – time to move on!

Yes, lastly it is possible that he doesn’t call you because he is just not into you. Maybe you two have different personalities or there is something else he didn’t like about you. In this case, there is not much you can do and it is better to try to find someone else instead of spending time on this guy. You shouldn’t feel bad about yourself just because someone didn’t like you or feel angry. You are not attracted to every guy you meet and the same with the guys.

Dating always involves risks that the person you might fight attractive will not like you back. However, there is nothing wrong with that and it is better to find out the guy is not into you after a first date than to find out two years later when you catch him cheating on you with someone else.