With the popularity of online dating and hook-up culture, it is becoming harder to decide when you should take things to the next level with the guys you meet.
Does sleeping too soon affect your chances of having a successful relationship or not?
Most experts suggest waiting at least until the third date before sleeping with a guy you are seeing but it usually really depends on what exactly you are looking for.
Are you looking for a long-term relationship that eventually might end up in a marriage or want to have a casual boyfriend without any commitment?
If you are only interested in casual dating, sleeping on a first date is completely fine but things get a little more complicated if you are actually looking for something more serious and want the guy to stick around.
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Pros and Cons of Sleeping Too Soon With a Guy
Why Should You Sleep With Him Right Away?
- It is Fun
If the chemistry is right, it can be exciting to let your guards down and enjoy the moment.
- Life is Too Short to Wait
Life is unpredictable and if you wait for too long it is possible that you will not have a second chance.
- Find Out If You are Compatible in Bed
By not waiting for too long to sleep with a guy you can get a better idea if you are compatible in the bedroom.
Depending on what you are looking for in a guy this can be really important because a lack of compatibility can often ruin relationships and even marriages.
Why Should You Wait?
- Hard to Convert to a Serious Relationship
Sleeping with a guy before you are both comfortable can potentially ruin your chances of a long-term relationship. Some people end up sleeping too soon because of peer pressure or getting drunk before they get to know each other.
Some women also feel pressured to sleep with a guy before they feel fully ready if he spends a lot of money on them like for example paying for expensive meals or drinks.
Others feel that since they have already been on three dates, it is time to get physical even if it doesn’t fully feel right.
- The Guy Might Lose Interest
If the guy you are seeing is only looking to get laid, he might leave you after you sleep with him.
Jumping into bed with someone you just met doesn’t give you much time to figure out the guy’s intentions.
Some guys may also assume that you are “easy” and anyone can get you in bed which can make it harder for them to see you as a potential long-term partner
- Easy to Catch an STD
If the guy wants to sleep with you on a first date, you can bet that he does this with a lot of other women.
This obviously increases your chances of catching an STD especially if the guy tells you that he prefers not to use any protection – check for STDs online!
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How Long Should You Make a Guy Wait To Sleep With You?
There are a few reasons why many serious relationships start with couples waiting to sleep with each other.
First of all, by making a guy wait you can figure out his intentions. Otherwise, how can you tell if the guy is actually into you or just wants to get into your pants if you sleep with him on a first date?
Secondly, sleeping too soon removes a lot of mystery between you too which is important in building stronger chemistry.
It is always a good idea to wait until you both feel very comfortable with each other before getting intimate.
Even though there is a 3 date rule when it comes to sleeping with a guy, the better approach is to wait at least a month to really see what the guy’s intentions are and whether you are still interested in each other after a month.
The right time to get intimate with a guy is different for every woman. Some women are ready to jump into bed with the guy they just met a few hours ago while others need weeks or even months to be comfortable.
Don’t be afraid that he will leave you if you don’t sleep with him right away. If he does, he is probably not the best guy for you.
Do you really want to marry a man that can’t wait a couple of weeks or a month until you are ready?
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What to Do If You Slept With a Guy Too Soon?
Even though sleeping too soon with a guy can decrease your chances of starting a successful relationship there are a few ways to fix your situation.
First of all, “too soon” is different for everyone. For some women sleeping on a first date is too soon while for others even waiting a month is too soon.
A better definition of too soon is sleeping with a guy before you felt fully comfortable or had strong chemistry.
This often happens either because of peer pressure or being too tipsy.
1. Don’t Be Jealous or Clingy
Just because you slept together, it doesn’t mean that now you are now officially boyfriend and girlfriend.
Acting jealous after you slept with a guy can scare him away. Instead, take it easy but do show the guy that you are still interested.
Some guys don’t text women after sleeping with them, thinking they didn’t enjoy it.
2. Tease Him
Next time you are together tease him by making out with him but don’t sleep with him to increase his anticipation.
Remember that you are not his booty call so don’t agree to meet up at his place at night if he doesn’t go out with you anywhere else.
3. Make Him Jealous
Making a guy slightly jealous can increase his attraction to you.
If the guy knows that there are a lot of other guys interested in you, he will be more willing to commit to you.
4. Don’t Be Boring
Many people stop seeing each other because they get bored.
Try to do something fun each time you meet and don’t be afraid to tell the guy what you want to do. Some men lack imagination when it comes to planning dates and often are too shy to tell you what they really want to do.
Another way to keep your relationship exciting is to flirt with a guy.
Compliment on the way he looks, touch him and then pull away, tell him about your fantasies, or even text him a hot photo of yourself just before he goes to bed to make his imagination run wild.
Lastly acting unpredictably every once in a while will make a guy think more about you.
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