What to Say When a Guy Asks for a Massage?

Did the guy you’re kinda, sorta seeing just casually ask you for a massage like it’s nothing? If you’re like many women, you might have a lot of questions and concerns about his request.

What are his intentions? Does he see me as just a friend, or is this his way of asking for more?

This may also stir up a little anxiety about your massage skills – are you supposed to be an amateur masseuse now?

And then, there’s the more practical side of things. Say you’re willing to give it a shot; how do you even begin?

The fear of creating an awkward moment is real. Perhaps he’s just being friendly, and you’re reading too much into it, but what if you’re not?

The boundaries between personal and too personal can get pretty fuzzy, and it’s normal to feel hesitant especially if you are not ready to get physical.

What Does It Mean When a Guy Asks You for a Massage?

1. He’s Really Feeling Sore

“Man, after lifting all those boxes during my move, my back is killing me. How about a quick massage?”

This is straight-up about the pain. He’s not trying to be smooth or anything; he just needs some relief.

It’s like when someone has a headache and asks for an aspirin. You don’t have to be a pro, just someone who can help him feel a bit better.

2. He’s Trying to Flirt

“I could really use a good massage. You up for it?” It’s pretty clear he’s flirting, and this is his way of seeing if you’re interested in being more touchy-feely with him.

3. Seeing How Close You Are

Sometimes a guy might be curious about how comfortable you are. He might say something like, “We should totally give each other a massage.”

It’s his way of testing the waters to see if you’re okay with getting up close and personal.

4. He’s Stressed Out

He’s had a nightmare at work or school, and he says, “I’m so stressed. A massage would be amazing right now.”

He’s likely just looking for a way to relax, and a massage from a friend can be a chill way to let go of that stress.

5. He Likes You

Okay, so this one’s a bit more obvious. If he’s hanging around you a lot and then asks, “Would you give me a massage sometime?” he’s probably into you.

He might hope a massage will lead to cuddling or even something more intimate.

6. He Doesn’t Get Personal Space

Some guys are just clueless about what’s too forward. He might blurt out, “Hey, my neck’s so tense. Give me a quick massage, will you?” without realizing it’s a bit much.

He just doesn’t get that it’s something that can make some people feel awkward.

7. He Wants You to Return a Favor

If he’s been helping you out with stuff and he jokingly says, “So, about that massage for fixing your car…?”

It’s his playful way of asking for a payback for the favors he’s done for you.

8. He’s Just a Touchy Guy

Some guys are just more touch-oriented and don’t think twice about it. He could casually mention, “I love a good massage, don’t you?”

This type usually doesn’t read too much into it; they just like the connection that comes from physical touch.

9. He Thinks It’s No Big Deal

And then there are those guys who really think asking for a massage is as normal as asking if you want to grab lunch.

If he says, “My back could use a massage, you up for it?” he probably just sees it as a regular, friendly thing to do.

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What to Say When a Guy Asks You to Massage Him?

1. “Sure, but I charge by the minute, and I’m not cheap!”

2. “How about a trade? You do my math homework, and I’ll give you a massage.”

3. “Only if you promise not to judge my technique – I learned from YouTube.”

4. “I might consider it if you teach me how to golf.”

5. “Let’s make it fair: I’ll give you a ten-minute massage, and then we switch.”

6. “Maybe! Are we talking about a full spa experience or just a quick shoulder rub?”

7. “I’ll have to check my schedule; my massage appointments are in high demand.”

8. “As long as it’s just your shoulders and you’re not ticklish because I don’t want to be kicked accidentally.”

9. “Sure, as long as we’re clear that my massages don’t come with happy endings.”

10. “Sure, but afterward, we’re having a pizza. And you’re buying.”

11. “Fine, but if I do this, you’re helping me study for my Spanish test.”

12. “I can give it a try, but you’ll owe me one. I’m thinking ice cream.”

13. “As long as it’s above the waist and PG-rated, we’re good.”

14. “How about I just show you some stretches instead?”

15. “Let’s do rock-paper-scissors for it. If you win, I’ll do it.”

16. “Yup, but if I do this, you’re coming with me to yoga class next week. It’s only fair.”

17. “Deal, but you’ll have to provide the massage oil. And just a heads up, olive oil from the kitchen doesn’t count.”

18. “I can, but just a heads up: I tend to leave my clients wanting more.”

19. “Is this a ploy to get me to touch you? Because it’s working.”

20. “As long as you know, I take my payment in chocolates and ice cream.”

21. “You know, they say a good massage can make someone fall in love, so proceed with caution.”

22. “Only if you agree to return the favor. I’ve got some shoulder tension too, you know.”

23. “A massage? I might just surprise you with my hidden talents.”

24. “Of course, but just to let you know, people tend to fall for me after my massages.”

25. “Alright, but I get to set the rules. Rule number one: you can’t fall asleep on me!”

26. “I suppose I could, but I take my tips in the form of dessert.”

27. “I’m willing to negotiate. How about a massage for a nice dinner out?”

28. “Alright, but if I start now, you’re making me breakfast in the morning.”

29. “I’ll give you a massage, but you owe me one espresso for every knot I find.”

30. “As long as you promise not to moan.”

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