Starting a conversation with a guy you barely know on Facebook can feel intimidating and even scary.
You don‘t want to come across as creepy or get rejected but at the same time, if you wait for him to message you first, you could be waiting a very long time.
That’s why you need to take things into your own hands and make the first step.
It might feel scary to message a guy you like for the first time but what is the worst thing that can happen?
Probably him not messaging you back. Can you handle that?
However, it is much more likely that he will be happy that you made the first move.
So don‘t worry too much and just go for it!
To make it easier for you we will share some tips and actual conversation starters you can use to message guys on Facebook even if you never met them in real life.
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How to Start a Conversation on Facebook With a Guy?
1. Build confidence
It might feel scary to initiate a conversation online but you should remember that it is ok to message a guy first.
Yes, there are millions of introverts in the world, but sometimes you just have to step out of your comfort zone to get what you want.
All that doubt you have built within yourself, you should let that go.
You are a grown woman and you can message whoever you want.
If he doesn’t like you, it is his loss.
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2. Get to know him
Yes, he may be quite the charmer, but before sharing any of your personal details, it is best to get to know him.
Unfortunately, we live in a time when catfishing on social media has become very common.
Catfishing is a form of identity theft where someone may pretend to be someone else.
They will use stolen photos to put off a façade of a life that they do not live.
Once you have found out more about the guy and have determined that the account is authentic, your next step will be to learn about his likes and dislikes so that you know what topics to avoid.
When you begin to chat, the goal is to win him over not drive him away by discussing something that he hates.
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3. Use the suggestion method
This is where your profile research will come in handy especially if you both have similar interests.
For example, let’s say that both of you are interested in wine tasting. You may have found this out while scrolling through his Facebook timeline.
You could message him and ask for suggestions about the best wine-tasting venues in your area.
If you are lucky, he might even invite you to one of his favorite spots in the future.
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4. Use mutual friends to your advantage
If you have mutual friends with a guy you like, you can use them to get to know more about him before messaging for the first time.
You can even ask your mutual friends for an introduction if you feel too nervous to message yourself.
Examples of Facebook Conversation Starters
- I noticed we have a lot of mutual friends. How do you know Mike H.?
2. Did you go to UBC? I‘m thinking of applying there to study engineering. Do you have any tips?
3. Are you from around here? I‘m new to the area and could use some recommendations on places to check out.
4. I saw you‘re originally from Texas. What part?
5. That new song you posted is really catchy! Who‘s your favorite band right now?
6. Hey, looks like we have a lot of classes together! Have we met before?
7. I‘m surprised we haven‘t talked yet, since we have so much in common!
8. The food pictures on your page make me hungry! What‘s your favorite restaurant?
9. Did you just move here? I‘m originally from Ohio as well!
10. Wow, you‘ve been to so many amazing places! Which one was your favorite?
11. You have such a cool job! How did you get into that field?
12. Your profile says you like hiking! I just moved here and am looking for someone to explore the trails with.
13. I‘m guessing you‘re a big baseball fan based on your profile picture. Who‘s your favorite player?
14. Hey, I think it‘s amazing that you‘re passionate about animals! I volunteered in a dog shelter in the past and loved it.
15. I think I saw you at the game last night. Who were you cheering for?
16. You seem really well–traveled! What‘s been your favorite place to visit so far?
17. Whoa, we have a lot of interests in common! Do you want to chat sometime?
18. Your profile says you like hiking! Do you have any favorite trails around here? Looking for some ideas for the summer hiking season.Â
19. You‘re in a band? I‘ve always wanted to start playing an instrument. What do you play?
20. Hey, I saw that you‘re into art too! What‘s your favorite medium to work with?
21. I read your profile and saw that you‘re from Dallas. I‘m originally from Houston!
22. You seem really cool and wanted to see if you want to be friends.
23. Did you watch the game last night? Who do you think will make it to the Super Bowl this year?
24. The puppy on your Facebook profile photo is so cute! What breed is he?
25. Wow, you went to my dream school! What was it like attending there?
26. Who took that amazing profile photo of you on top of the mountain?
27. Your travel photos look amazing! What was your favorite trip?
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How Not to Be Creepy or Weird When Messaging Guys on Facebook?
- Don‘t start the conversation with a compliment about his looks
- Avoid using innuendos until you get to know the guy
- Avoid sending messages late at night
- Make sure your Facebook profile picture is clear and easy to see so that the guys you message know that you are a real person
- Don’t ask him why he takes so long to reply
- Don’t get jealous in your messages
- Don‘t message a guy more than once if he hasn‘t responded to your first message
- Be careful about how often you “like“ or comment on a guy‘s photos or posts – too much activity might make you come across as desperate or stalker–ish
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