How can you tell if your boss is flirting or just being friendly without asking him?
There are signs that can help you to figure out if your boss actually has a crush on you.
We will cover all these signs of attraction in this post which will help you to decide what to do next.
When you are in the workplace, it can be difficult to navigate all the relationships that you can form with your coworkers.
An invitation to hang out with your boss might mean that he or she is attracted to you or it can simply mean that they want you to take a part in a professional team-building event.
An extra bit of praise might be to get your affection or just an attempt to increase your work productivity.
So how can you be sure that your boss is attracted to you?
How would an intimate relationship work between a boss and his or her employee?
While the social dynamics may be complicated, humans are still humans and we are not really good at hiding our attraction from other people.
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Signs Your Boss is Attracted to You
1. Eye Contact
When you make eye contact with your boss pay close attention to his or her pupils.
If their pupils are dilated and they try to maintain eye contact with you the entire time then it is a sign that your boss is attracted to you.
During a meeting, do they hold eye contact with you more than they do with other coworkers?
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2. Body Language
Notice if your boss is more physical with you than with your other coworkers.
This could be through affectionate greetings like extra fist bumps or pats on the back or playful physical touches.
If they are a little bit more touchy or playful with you than with other coworkers, this could be a sign that they like you.
We as humans can’t help but touch the people we are attracted to, so if your boss is more physically affectionate with you than with other colleagues then they may be physically attracted to you.
When chatting with your boss try to see if his or her body is oriented toward you rather than away.
Notice if their shoulders and torsos are pointed towards yours and whether your boss leans towards you.
If they aren’t attracted to you, they would be speaking to you but not fully turned towards you which would indicate disinterest.
During the conversation, you can also see if they mirror your movements.
For example, if you are seated you can cross your legs over or change your body position, and if they are attracted to you they might mirror your position.
Humans can also use barriers to indicate attraction or disinterest.
When you are speaking, notice if they place barriers between you or remove them.
For example, if they place a drink in between you, it might mean that they haven’t established rapport or attraction with you.
But if they take that drink between you and move it to the side, opening up space for you that could mean that they like you.
The same goes for things like books, pillows, paperwork, and anything physical that can serve as a barrier between you and your boss.
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3. Pay Attention to What Your Boss Says
The key to pointing out attraction is understanding that as humans we can’t help but want to be closer to people we are attracted to.
This can translate verbally too.
If your boss is the impersonal business type then personal conversations would indicate an interest in you.
If they talk to you about their personal life, hobbies, and interests more than your other coworkers, this likely means that they are interested in you.
An undeniable verbal sign is an invitation to spend time with them outside work.
Some bosses might try to hide it as a group bonding activity and invite others or might be more straightforward and ask you to hang out one on one, and at that point, you could safely assume that your boss likes you.
If they take you out with a group of other coworkers, try to look for the nonverbal cues that you learned above.
Notice how much eye contact they share with you and whether they look at you more than at the others in the group.
Pay attention to their body orientation, where they are leaning or facing more.
Do they mirror your position or lean toward you?
Do they place barriers or distance between you?
Remember that we as humans can’t help but want to get closer to people we are attracted to.
Do they bring you into the group’s conversation more than other coworkers?
Finally, there is one sure way to tell and it always works.
The easiest way to tell if your boss is attracted to you is by asking him or her directly.
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4. Talk to Your Boss
If you’re interested and feeling bold, direct conversation is the best way to find out if your boss is interested in you.
Since your relationship is not like most, there are specific precautions to take beforehand.
First of all, you have to check your workplace’s HR policies.
You could talk to HR or read through the guidelines for your workplace if you can’t find them in writing you can analyze your workplace culture for past workplace relationships.
There is no one right way to ask someone to date, the most important thing to remember is to be genuine and honest with yourself and the other party.
Now that you have learned the nonverbal cues of attraction in the workplace; to watch eye contact (keep an eye on their eyes!), extra physical affection, body orientation, position mirroring, and barrier removal, it should be easy for you to find out if your boss is attracted to you.
Another indirect way to gauge their attraction is to pay attention to your conversation with your boss and see how often they bring up their personal life.
If based on the signs that we discussed, you think that your boss is attracted to you, check your workplace culture and guidelines on work relationships, and once you get the green light go for the direct approach.
Ask your boss out for coffee and start acting more direct.
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