If a girl keeps sending you selfies, especially ones she took just for you, there is a decent chance she wants your attention and cares what you think of how she looks.
Does that automatically mean she likes you?
No.
Girls send selfies to friends all the time.
But there is a pretty big difference between getting the same random Snapchat picture she probably sent to twelve people and getting:
Which outfit looks better?
followed by two selfies and then:
Be honest.
That second girl wants your opinion.
And if she keeps doing it, sends pictures before she posts them anywhere else, or seems very pleased when you tell her she looks good, I would at least consider the possibility that she is flirting with you.
Because sometimes a selfie is just a selfie.
And sometimes it is a girl standing in front of her mirror taking seventeen pictures because there is one specific guy she wants to see number six.
The biggest clue is whether the selfie feels like it was actually meant for you
This matters more than the picture itself.
Maybe she sends you a Snapchat selfie with no caption.
Could mean almost anything.
Now imagine you are already talking about her going out that night.
Twenty minutes later:
Okay, this is what I went with.
Selfie.
That is personal.
She remembered the conversation and wanted you to see how she looked.
Or maybe you told her you like curly hair.
The next day she curls her hair and sends you a picture.
Come on.
You are allowed to notice that.
She may be looking for a reaction from you.
Probably a good one.
If she sends you pictures before posting them, you may be getting special access
This is a surprisingly useful clue.
She sends:
Should I post this one?
Maybe she genuinely wants your opinion.
Maybe she sends the same question to three friends.
But if you regularly see her selfies before Instagram does, you have become part of her little approval circle.
That can mean she trusts your taste.
It can also mean she specifically wants to know whether you think she looks attractive.
Guys sometimes completely miss this.
A girl sends them a great picture and asks:
Which one do you like?
And they reply:
Second one has better lighting.
Technically excellent feedback.
Emotionally, you have just become an unpaid photo editor.
If you like her, you are allowed to say:
Second one. You look really good in that one.
There.
Now she knows you noticed more than the exposure settings.
“Do I look okay?” is often not really asking whether she looks okay
She probably already looked in the mirror.
She may have taken twelve photos.
She knows roughly what she looks like.
When she sends you one and asks:
Do I look okay?
she may be looking for reassurance from you specifically.
If you like her, do not answer:
Yeah.
Guys.
Please.
Give the woman more than one syllable.
Try:
You look really good.
Or:
That outfit definitely works.
If there is already flirting between you:
You know you look good.
That last one can be fun because now you are calling out the fact that she may have known exactly what she was doing.
Random selfies during the day can mean she wants to stay in your head
This is where it gets cute.
You are not even talking about appearances.
Your phone buzzes.
There she is.
Maybe she is drinking coffee.
Sitting in her car.
Walking her dog.
Doing absolutely nothing worth documenting.
Why send it?
Because she wanted to talk to you.
Sometimes the selfie is basically a more personal version of:
Hey.
She does not have a fascinating story to tell.
She just wants to pop up on your screen.
If this happens often and the conversation always starts flowing afterward, I would take the attention seriously.
She is choosing to keep contact going.
The sleepy morning selfie is its own category
Hair slightly messy.
No elaborate outfit.
Maybe she is still in bed or drinking coffee.
Caption:
I look rough today.
She probably does not think she looks as rough as she claims.
And if she is comfortable sending you pictures when she is not completely done up, that can mean she feels relaxed around you.
It may also be a tiny invitation for you to tell her she still looks cute.
Do not go overboard.
You do not need:
You are the most breathtaking woman who has ever lived.
Try:
You still look cute.
Normal.
Warm.
Human.
Perfectly sufficient.
If the selfies suddenly get more dressed up, she may be turning up the flirting
Maybe she used to send casual pictures.
Then lately you are getting the good outfit.
Hair done.
Makeup done.
Going out somewhere.
And somehow you always get the preview.
Interesting.
She may simply enjoy sharing pictures with you.
But if she knows you are into her and starts sending pictures where she clearly made an effort to look especially good, she may enjoy the fact that you are looking.
Especially if she follows it with:
Well?
That woman is waiting for something.
Do not send a thumbs up.
What if she sends mirror selfies?
Again, context.
A mirror selfie showing you a new jacket because you were discussing jackets is not exactly a declaration of love.
A completely random mirror selfie followed by:
Going out tonight 🙂
may be her way of saying:
Look at me.
And honestly, sometimes that is all flirting is.
One person says look at me.
The other person says I am looking.
Nobody needs to make it more complicated than that.
If you like her, give her the reaction she was probably hoping for.
Not creepy.
Not a detailed review of her body.
Just:
You look amazing.
Easy.
If she sends the same kind of pictures to everyone, lower the romantic expectations a little
Some girls communicate through selfies.
That is simply how they use Snapchat or messaging.
They send pictures to friends all day.
Coffee selfie.
Gym selfie.
Car selfie.
Bored at work selfie.
Dog in the background selfie.
If you are one of twenty people receiving the same thing, the picture itself does not mean much.
The better question is whether she gives you something different.
Personal captions.
Replies connected to your conversation.
Pictures she says are only for you.
Follow up questions.
Flirting.
That is where things become more interesting.
Pay attention to what happens when you compliment her
You say:
You look cute.
What does she do?
If she says:
Thanks!
and moves on, fine.
If she starts teasing you:
Just cute?
Okay.
She may be fishing a little.
If she sends another picture five minutes later, now I am laughing.
She liked the attention.
Maybe she wants more of it.
Or she sends:
So you like this outfit?
She is keeping the conversation on the fact that you find her attractive.
That is usually not a terrible sign.
What if she asks which picture you like best?
This can be very innocent.
Girls ask friends this all the time.
But if she only asks you, particularly when the pictures are basically variations of her looking great, she may care about your taste for a reason.
You can answer normally.
First one. Your smile looks better.
That is actually a much better compliment than trying too hard to sound smooth.
Girls usually know when a guy is copying some dramatic line he found somewhere.
Normal sounds better.
A girl can want your attention without wanting to date you
This is the annoying part.
She may love your compliments.
Enjoy flirting.
Send you pictures.
Think you are cute.
And still not necessarily want a relationship.
People enjoy attention.
Guys do too.
So do not turn every selfie into:
She definitely wants me.
Look at what happens outside the phone.
Does she want to see you?
Does she make time?
Does she ask what you are doing this weekend?
Does she seem excited when you suggest meeting?
That matters much more than how many pictures are sitting in your chat.
If she sends selfies but dodges every date, believe the dates
This will save you so much time.
She sends you pictures constantly.
You flirt.
She calls you cute.
Everything seems promising.
Then you ask:
Want to grab a drink Friday?
Suddenly:
Maybe, I will let you know.
Friday arrives.
Nothing.
The selfies continue.
You try again another week.
Same thing.
At that point, stop treating the pictures like proof that a relationship is developing.
Maybe she likes talking to you.
Maybe she likes the compliments.
Maybe she likes a little harmless flirting.
But if you want to date her, eventually she needs to actually go on a date.
The camera roll cannot carry this relationship forever.
On the other hand, she may be waiting for you to do something
Guys miss this too.
She sends selfies.
Flirts.
Replies quickly.
Asks about your weekend.
Seems genuinely interested.
You have been analyzing all of this for six weeks.
Have you asked her out?
No.
Why?
Because you are waiting for one more sign.
My friend, she has sent you forty seven signs, several of them from flattering angles.
Ask her for coffee.
You do not need to make a huge confession.
We should get a drink this week.
Done.
If she likes you, you have finally given the flirting somewhere to go.
What should you say when a girl sends you a selfie?
Do not overthink this either.
If it is casual, respond to whatever she actually sent.
If she shows you her new haircut:
That looks really good on you.
If it is clearly a cute selfie with no other purpose:
Okay, you look really cute today.
If the two of you already flirt:
Are you trying to distract me?
That one works because it is playful without sounding like you have never seen a woman before.
What you probably should not do is ignore the picture entirely if you like her.
If she sent a selfie hoping you would notice and you reply:
Anyway did you watch the game?
you may accidentally convince her that subtlety is wasted on you.
Do not get weird if the picture is a little more flirty
Maybe she sends a picture where she clearly knows she looks good.
You do not need to respond with something wildly intense.
Match her energy.
If she is being playful, be playful.
If she sends:
New dress. Thoughts?
try:
Big fan of the dress.
Then:
Bigger fan of the girl wearing it.
Only if that kind of flirting already fits between you.
Timing matters.
A line that feels cute after weeks of mutual flirting can feel bizarre from a guy she met yesterday.
The pictures matter less than why she keeps choosing you
That is really what you want to look at.
She could post the picture publicly.
She could send it to her group chat.
She could keep it on her phone.
Instead, she sends it to you.
Once, maybe nothing.
Repeatedly?
You have her attention.
Maybe she wants your opinion.
Maybe she likes your compliments.
Maybe she enjoys talking to you.
Maybe she has a crush and is trying to give you something to work with.
You find out by looking at the rest of the relationship.
So does a girl sending you selfies mean she likes you?
It can.
Especially if the selfies are personal, frequent, connected to your conversations, sent before she posts them elsewhere, and followed by obvious interest in what you think.
It means even more if she also flirts, initiates conversations, asks whether you are single, and actually wants to spend time with you.
But do not spend three months trying to decode Snapchat when there is a much easier option.
Ask her out.
Because if a girl keeps sending you cute pictures and you keep sending back compliments while both of you secretly wonder whether the other person is interested, somebody eventually has to leave the chat and get coffee.
