10 Romantic Topics to Talk With Your Girlfriend at Night

Nothing makes girls fall in love faster than a guy who knows how to bring some romance into a relationship.

The good news is that being romantic isn‘t rocket science and with a little effort and practice, any guy can learn how to sweet–talk his way into a girl‘s heart.

One of the most important things to remember when trying to be romantic is that it‘s all about making your girlfriend feel special and appreciated.

Whether it‘s telling her how much she means to you or doing something thoughtful like cooking her dinner after a long day at work, it‘s the little things that count when it comes to romance.

Another key to being romantic is being a good listener.

Showing genuine interest in what your girlfriend has to say and really hearing her out shows that you care about her.

It‘s an important way to build intimacy and connection in any relationship.

So let’s take a look at some examples you can use to melt your girlfriend’s heart.

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Topics to Talk With Girlfriend at Night

1. Tell Her How She Makes You Feel

Girls love to feel wanted and appreciated and if you can make your girlfriend feel that way, she will love you even more. 

So tell her how much you appreciate having her in your life, and how happy she makes you fell.

Explain what it feels like when you hold her hands or kiss her.

How does your heart feel? What emotions are flowing through you when you look at her or when you talk to her?

Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable and open.

At the end of the day, she will feel closer to you if she knows that you truly care and are honest with her.

Examples: 

• I never thought I’d find someone who makes me feel as happy as you do
• You make me feel so special and loved, I can’t imagine my life without you
• Seeing you smile always makes my day brighter, no matter what else is happening
• Sometimes I just look at you and I’m in awe of how lucky I am to have found someone like you
• No matter what happens in our lives or how many arguments we may have, at the end of the day, there’s no one else I’d rather be with than with you

2. The Things You Like About Her

Tell her what you like about the way she dresses, acts, looks, or the things she says.

Tell her the cute little things that make you happy or the little habits she has that you love.

Does she wear her hair a certain way that you like? Does she have a mole you find cute? Does she smile in a way that makes her eyes crinkle?

Tell her all these things!

When she sees that you pay attention and notice her, the romance will blossom and she will open up to you as well.

Examples:

• I love the way your eyes light up whenever we lay next to each other
• I love the way you always know what to say to make me feel better
• I love how hot and confident you are – it really turns me on!
• I love your playful side and how you‘re never afraid to let loose and have some fun
• I love your intelligence and the way you’re always challenging me to think outside the box

3. About the Future Together

A conversation about marriage, kids, or buying a house together is a sure way to get your girlfriend’s emotions flowing.

These topics will fill her head with all sorts of happy thoughts and dreams. 

She will start to imagine what her life will be like with you in 5, 10, or even 20 years and will feel more connected to you.

Examples:

What are your thoughts on having kids? I come from a big family and always thought it would be nice to have my own little clan someday.

What are your thoughts on moving? I’d love to move out of state at some point – maybe somewhere with a warmer climate!

In ten years’ time, I hope to be settled into a nice home with you by my side (and possibly some little ones running around). I’ll likely still be working but hopefully not too much so that we can enjoy our free time together doing things we love like traveling and exploring new places.

What kind of house do you see us living in? I’ve always wanted a cozy little cottage with a white picket fence. I can picture us spending lazy Sundays out in the garden, or curled up on the couch together reading books by the fireplace.

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4. Her Passion

Everyone has something they are passionate about, whether it is a hobby or something they want to change in the world.

When you talk to your girlfriend about the things she is passionate about, it shows that you care about what is important to her.

It also gives you a chance to learn more about her and what makes her tick.

Examples: 

• Is there anything you’ve always wanted to do but never had the chance? I’ll gladly be your partner in crime if it will help you to live out your dreams.
• What are the things that make you feel most alive?
• What gets you out of bed in the morning besides me?

5. Your Childhood

Talk about what was it like growing up. Where did you grow up? What were some of the defining moments in your life?

This will give your girlfriend a better understanding of who you are and where you come from.

It will also help create a stronger bond between the two of you as she gets to know more about your past and how it has shaped who you are today.

Examples: 

Do you remember when we used to swing on the swings as kids? Those were some of the best times of my life.

My earliest memory is of my mom and dad taking me to get ice cream. I was probably only three or four years old, but I remember how happy I felt sitting in between them in the car with a cone full of mint chocolate chips.

Some of my favorite memories growing up are from holidays spent with extended family. We would all gather at my grandparents’ house for big meals full of laughter and love. After dinner, we would often play games together or just sit around talking late into the night. 

I have always loved spending time outdoors, and some of my favorite childhood memories are of camping trips with my family. I remember one summer we went to Yellowstone and saw a bear for the first time. I was so excited that I couldn’t sleep all night!

I remember being really close with my grandparents when I was growing up. My grandma would take me shopping or out for lunch, and she always made me feel special. My grandpa would tell me stories about his life when he was younger, and I loved hearing about all of his adventures.

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6. Physical Intimacy

Tell her about the things you would like to do with her or how she makes you feel.

Talk about how you want to please her and make her happy. She will be sure to appreciate it and be flustered.

Keep it light and fluffy and back off if you think you might be taking it too far.

If done right, physical intimacy can be one of the most romantic things you can talk about with your girlfriend.

Examples: 

• I love the way you touch me, it feels so good and makes me feel so alive
• The way you kiss me is like nothing I‘ve ever experienced before
• I love exploring your body and finding new ways to please you
• Your skin tastes like honey and I can’t get enough of it
• The sounds you make when we together never fail to send shivers down my spine
• Seeing you lose yourself in passion is the most beautiful thing in the world to me

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7. What She Wants in Life

Talk about what she wants out of life and where she sees herself in the future.

This is a great way to get to know her more and find out what makes her tick.

Girls like guys who are interested in their goals and aspirations, so asking about this stuff will definitely score you some points!

Examples:

I’ll support you no matter what, you know that right? So tell me what is it that you really want out of life?

I love you and I want to help make all your dreams come true. So, what are they?

If there’s anything at all I can do to help make your dreams come true, just let me know – because I love you and want nothing more than for you to be happy!

8. Fantasies

What are some of the fantasies you have about her?

Fantasizing about each other is a great way to keep the spark alive in any relationship, so don’t be afraid to let your imaginations run wild. 

Talk about all the things you’d like to do to each other, and see where the conversation goes from there.

Examples:

• Do you have any secret desires or fantasies? I want to fulfill all of your wishes and make them a reality.
• It’s so hot hearing you describe what you want to do to me, or what you want me to do to you
• Sometimes I can’t help but get carried away thinking about all the things I want to do to you. I hope that’s okay.
• Do you ever find yourself thinking about me when you’re alone? I bet you do all sorts of naughty things to me in your mind
• What are some things you’ve always wanted to try? I’m game for anything as long as it makes you happy

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9. Your First Time Together

What was it like? How did you feel at the moment? Was it everything you hoped for? 

This is a great way to bring back the good memories and feelings of your first time together and to get her thinking about how exciting it was.

Examples: 

It was the most perfect night. We were both so nervous, but it felt so right. I’ll never forget how your eyes looked in the moonlight, or how your skin felt under my fingertips.

I remember everything about that night because it was such a special moment for me. From the way you nervously fiddled with your hair before I kissed you, to the gentle yet passionate way we made love for the first time.

It’s funny, even though our first time together wasn’t exactly perfect, it’s still one of my favorite memories because it was when I realized just how much I loved you and wanted to be with you forever.

10. Tell Her a Secret

Get her to trust you by sharing a secret with her that nobody else knows.

This will make her feel special and will help to build a stronger bond between the two of you.

Examples:

This is going to sound really bad, but there’s something important that I need to tell you and I’m not sure how you’re going to react.

There’s something I’ve never told you, and it’s been eating away at me for years. When we first met, I wasn’t completely honest with you about who I was.

I’ve never told anyone this before, but when I was younger I once wished that I could trade places with a guy in my class because I thought her life was so much better than mine.

Do you know how you always ask me if there’s anything on my mind? Well, there is something bothering me but it’s hard for me to talk about because it involves someone from my past whom I haven’t seen in a long time…

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