After your divorce, it may seem like there is no way you are ever going to be able to find someone else. Being married is a life changing experience and it can be hard to know how to meet someone else after going through a traumatic experience with your last relationship. So how do you meet new people?
If you are looking to get back in the game after your divorce, there are some key things you should know. Make sure to not mention your divorce, don’t fall back on old habits, go do things that get you involved outside, talk to your friends,
- Don’t Mention Your Divorce
Step one to meeting new people is to not mention your divorce if at all possible. One problem that stops many people from finding new people who are interested in them is the fact that it is very hard to stop talking about the person you were once with. Your ex-spouse will have left a strong impact and it makes it hard to not want to talk about the rollercoaster of emotions you may be feeling. However, mentioning your divorce may be overwhelming for new people in your life and turn them off to thinking you have moved on. No one wants to feel like they are sharing your attention and it you keep mentioning your divorce, it will seem like your interests are divided.
- Don’t Fall Back On Old Habits
Try to avoid how you met your last spouse. If you met them at a certain club or activity, try and get out of your box. This way you start being able to meet people you wouldn’t have necessarily ever seen before and it gives you a new group to look at and get interested in.
- Go Outside
Go do community activities. It is unlikely you will meet someone you actually like who is single at a place like a bar. Unfortunately, traditional meeting spots oftentimes produce poor results or create relationships that aren’t worth their salt. This is why community activities are so important. You are able to be able to meet new people in a safe, quite place where you can actually get to know them. It also increases your chance of finding a partner that lives close by to you as a bonus!
- Talk with Your Friends
Talk to your old friends to see if they can set you up with someone! This is a great way to be able to start going on double dates and feel more comfortable getting back in the dating scene after your divorce. Chances are one of your friends will know someone on the market. It’s an easy and simple way to put yourself out there with as little effort as possible. Besides, even if the relationship doesn’t work out, chances are you will have a good time with your friend so it won’t be a complete waste of your time.
- Learn a Hobby
Go out and take classes for something! This can help you entertain yourself after your divorce as well as learn something creative. Take dance classes, ice skating lessons, knitting, or even learn another language! This ups your chances of meeting someone interesting as well as keeping yourself occupied so your mind doesn’t delve into your divorce. You also could potentially meet new friends as well as a new significant other. At the end of the day, there are so many good things that could come out of this you might as well give it a go and maybe meet your new partner while you are at it.
Overall, if you are thinking about moving on from your divorce and start dating once again, there is no need to feel like a fish out of water. Put yourself out into the scene and you will remember how to flirt and date like it was yesterday. Simply don’t mention your divorce, don’t fall back into old habits and experience new things, go outside and do things, see if your friends have anyone that they could set you up with, and go find yourself a new hobby and take a class for it. Before you know it, you will have completely moved on from your ex-spouse and will be experiencing new relationships that you will enjoy and that will help you grow and learn.