So you‘re out with your girlfriend and you see her chatting up another guy.
What‘s the best way to handle this type of situation without causing a scene or coming across as a jealous possessive boyfriend?
First of all, it‘s important to stay calm.
If you get emotional, it will only make things worse.
Next, you need to assess the situation.
Is your girlfriend just being friendly or is she actually flirting with the other guy?
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Why is She Flirting With Other Guys in Front of Me?
Before we take a look at what you can do if your girlfriend is flirting with other guys, it is important to understand why she is doing it in the first place.
Here are the most common reasons why women flirt with other guys right in front of their partners.
- She is trying to make you jealous
- She wants to see how you will react
- She is unhappy with your relationship
- She is bored with you and is looking for excitement elsewhere
- She likes the other guy but is not ready to break up with you
- She likes getting attention from other men
- She is trying to push you away because she doesn’t like you anymore but has no guts to break up with you
- She doesn’t realize that she is being flirty
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What to Do if Your Girlfriend Flirts with Other Guys?
1. Talk to Her
Communication is a vital component of any healthy relationship and when flirting becomes an issue, talking it out to find a solution is a much more productive option than any argument.
Talk to your girlfriend about your concerns and explain that you feel uncomfortable when she flirts with other guys.
Tell her that you would appreciate it if she could be more mindful of your feelings in the future.
It is possible that she doesn’t even realize that she is being flirty and by mentioning that it bothers you, she will stop doing it in the future.
2. Tell Her How It Makes You Feel
Instead of telling her that she flirts too much, tell her something like, “It hurts me when you flirt with other men.”
This way she will be more likely to listen to you and understand how you feel.
Here are a few more examples of how to tell your girlfriend that you don’t like it when she flirts with other men.
I don’t like it when you flirt with other guys because…
- It makes me feel like you don’t really care about me.
- It makes me feel like I’m not good enough for you.
- I feel like you’re trying to make me jealous.
- it makes me feel like you don’t really want to be with me.
- it makes me feel like I’m not your first choice.
- I feel like you’re not committed to our relationship.
- I feel like you‘re trying to get away from me.
- I feel like you‘re not satisfied with our relationship
- I feel like you don‘t respect me.
3. Let Her Speak
It’s important to let your girlfriend explain her behavior before you start blaming her.
Talk to her about your concerns and ask if she knows that she‘s been flirting with other guys right in front of you.
This will give her a chance to explain herself and hopefully clear things up.
It is possible that she doesn’t even realize that she is being flirty or doesn’t see it as a big deal.
In either case, she deserves to tell her side of the story.
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4. Is She Trying to Make You Jealous on Purpose?
Some women feel that making their men jealous is a turn-on or can spice up their relationships, so it may be a good idea to ask if she is trying to make you jealous on purpose.
You should make it clear that you are not blaming her, but just genuinely want to know why she feels the need to make you jealous.
5. Set Boundaries
If your girlfriend is flirting with other guys, it‘s important that you set boundaries for what is and is not acceptable behavior.
Let her know that you expect her to respect your feelings and not act in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable.
But at the same time, it is important to find a compromise that works for both of you.
For example, you could have a signal that you could use to let your girlfriend know that she is flirting so that she becomes aware when she is doing it if she told you that she didn’t realize that she being too flirty with other guys.
If this is not the case, you can discuss it whenever the flirtatious behavior occurs however don’t bring it up right away, but instead, wait until you have some privacy to avoid arguing in a public.
It is easy to let jealousy and insecurity run rampant when you think that your girlfriend is flirting with other men.
However, it can be far more effective to calmly assess the situation and take action accordingly by discussing this with your girlfriend and finding a solution that works for both of you.
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