14 Ways To Approach and Flirt With Guys At The Gym

Do you have a crush on a guy at the gym but are not sure how to approach him?

Maybe you already tried a few things like smiling and making eye contact with him to catch his attention but so far it didn’t work out yet?

The good news is that approaching men at the gym is actually pretty easy.

One thing that you need to remember when it comes to hitting on guys at the gym or anywhere else for this matter is that most guys (even married ones) will appreciate you approaching them.

Even if they are not interested, most of them will do their best not to openly reject you because they rarely get approached by women.

Today we will take a look at the best techniques when it comes to meeting guys at the gym.

Some of the methods that we will discuss might require confidence while others are simple and can be used even if you are shy.

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Examples of How To Approach A Guy At The Gym

1. Ask Him for Help

This is a great way to start a conversation with a guy at the gym.

If you’re struggling on a machine, or with weights, ask him if he can give you a hand.

Even if you don’t need help just fake it so that you have a reason to approach him.

Guys like it when someone asks for their help especially if it is a cute girl at the gym.

“Hey! I’m just lifting weights over there, do you think you could spot me?”

2. Ask for His Opinion

While waiting in line to scan your gym membership you can ask a guy standing next to you about his favorite machine or exercise, or what he thinks of the gym.

If he is in a good shape, you can also ask him what exercise he does to stay so fit.

3. Ask Him a Question

It can be anything about the gym, how long he’s been working out, or what protein shake he drinks after his workout.

You can also ask him what he’s training for, or if he plays any sports.

If he looks like a guy who knows what he is doing, you can ask him what is his favorite routine to work out his abs or which is the best machine to tone your legs.

4. Comment on His Workout

If you know what you are doing, you can comment on his lifting technique.

You can also ask if he can give you some advice on the exercises you are doing.

“Hey, I’m Ashley. I just saw you lifting over there, you’re really good.”

5. Be Confident

It’s easy to be shy and nervous, but don’t let that stop you from approaching guys at the gym.

Men like girls who are confident, even if they are nervous on the inside.

Confidence is attractive, and it’s something you gain with practice.

If you’re not confident, practice starting conversations with random guys in your school or at work.

Another way to improve your approaching skills is by practicing in front of the mirror.

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6. Just Ask for His Name

If you are always working out next to the guy you like, just introduce yourself.

Find a moment when he is taking a break between the sets and ask for his name.

“Hey, I’m Ann. What’s your name?”

7. Join a Group Class

This is a great way to get to know people in your gym and chat with the guys you find attractive.

8. Be Playful and Flirty

Flirting might be a little tricky at the gym, but it’s one of the best ways to attract guys.

There’s nothing wrong with flirting and having a little fun with the guys you like at the gym.

Make eye contact, smile, touch him lightly on the shoulder when talking to him, etc.

Just remember, if he is not interested in talking to you, don’t force it.

9. Compliment Him

If the conversation with a guy at the gym is going well, you can compliment him on something that he does well.

Tell him that his body is in great shape, you like his personal style, or whatever else you think is appropriate.

Guys rarely get compliments from women so he will really appreciate it when you do it.

10. Invite Him to Join You

Ask the guy you like if he wants to do exercise together or if he wants to be your workout partner.

This works great if you always share the same equipment or do similar workouts.

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11. Invite Him for a Shake

If you already had a small talk with a guy at the gym, it might be a good time to take things to the next level by inviting him to grab something to eat after you are done with your workout or fitness class.

Men are attracted to confident women, and by inviting him out you will be able to convey your confidence.

12. Don’t Make It A Big Deal

You don’t want to come across as desperate or needy when approaching guys at the gym.

You want to seem like you’re just taking a break and having a casual conversation between your sets.

If the guy you like doesn’t seem to be enthusiastic about you talking to him, don’t take it personally.

13. Smile

Smiling when approaching a guy or looking at him across the gym will always make him feel more attracted to you.

Try to smile, even if you are nervous. A warm and genuine smile will make almost any guy feel at ease around you.

14. Make Eye Contact

Eye contact is one of the easiest ways to make guys feel curious about you. Look at him for a couple of seconds, then look down.

When a guy sees a girl glancing at him with a smile he knows that she wants to be approached.

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