Asking someone out, even over text, can feel intimidating. Your stomach gets weird. Your brain floods with what-ifs. What if he says no? What if he tells someone and it gets around? What if you make it awkward and can never look him in the eye again?
Take a deep breath. You’re not alone in thinking this way. Most people, even the confident ones, feel at least a little nervous when putting themselves out there. It takes guts to ask someone to a dance. But the good news? It doesn’t have to be a huge deal.
You’re not asking him to date you. You’re not writing a love letter. You’re just asking if he wants to hang out with you at a dance. It’s one night. It’s supposed to be fun. And honestly, the more relaxed you are about it, the more relaxed he’ll be, too.
Texting is actually a great way to do it. You get to think through your words, avoid the whole in-person awkwardness, and keep things casual. If he says yes, great. If not, you’re still the kind of person who had the confidence to ask, and that’s always worth something.
To make it easier, here are 70 things you can text a guy when you’re asking him to a dance. They range from friendly and light to confident or a little flirty. Pick one that fits your personality and go for it.
Friendly and Low-Pressure Texts
- “Hey, want to go to the dance with me?”
- “Thinking about going to the dance. Want to come with?”
- “You doing anything the night of the dance?”
- “If you’re not going with anyone yet, I was thinking we could go together.”
- “Any chance you’d want to go to the dance with me?”
- “Just wondering if you’d be up for going to the dance with me.”
- “If you’re free that night, want to be my date to the dance?”
- “Would it be weird if I asked you to the dance?”
- “So… I was thinking, would you want to go to the dance together?”
- “I need someone chill to go to the dance with. You in?”
- “You seem like someone who would make the dance more fun. Want to go?”
- “Would you be up for going to the dance with me? No big deal if not.”
- “If you’re planning to go, want to go together?”
- “Any interest in teaming up for the dance?”
- “I was going to go solo but figured I’d check if you want to go together.”
- “You have plans for the dance yet?”
- “Feel like going to the dance with me?”
- “I thought of asking you to the dance, so I figured I might as well ask.”
- “Hey, want to be my date to the dance?”
- “I think we’d have a good time if we went to the dance together.”
Slightly Flirty (But Still Casual)
- “Would I be lucky enough to have you as my date to the dance?”
- “I think we’d look pretty good at the dance together. Want to go?”
- “So, want to go to the dance with me or make me regret not asking sooner?”
- “What are the chances you say yes if I ask you to the dance?”
- “I was thinking about asking someone to the dance. You crossed my mind.”
- “Want to go to the dance with me and pretend we’re cooler than we are?”
- “Not sure who I’m asking to the dance yet, but you’re kind of the top of the list.”
- “If I asked you to the dance, would that be a bad idea or a good one?”
- “What if we went to the dance together and had a decent time?”
- “Would you be okay going to the dance with someone who can’t dance very well?”
- “Be honest: how would you feel about being my date to the dance?”
- “I’m trying to decide who to go with. Want to make this easy and just say yes?”
- “Not sure what you’re doing for the dance, but I’d like it to involve me.”
- “Want to make the dance less awkward by going together?”
- “I was planning to skip the dance unless you wanted to go. So?”
- “You busy the night of the dance or should I block your calendar?”
- “You good at dancing or should we just wing it together?”
- “What would you say if I asked you to the dance right now?”
- “I know this might be random, but want to go to the dance with me?”
- “I think we’d have fun at the dance. What do you think?”
Confident and Direct
- “I’m asking you to the dance. What do you say?”
- “I want to go to the dance with you. Are you in?”
- “Dance is coming up. I want to go with you.”
- “If you’re free that night, I’d like to take you to the dance.”
- “I think you and I should go to the dance together.”
- “I’m just going to ask: want to go to the dance with me?”
- “I know who I want to go with. You. Want to?”
- “Here’s my idea: we go to the dance, we keep it simple, and we have a good time.”
- “I’m not going to overthink it. Want to go to the dance with me?”
- “Cutting to the point: will you go to the dance with me?”
Friendly with a Hint of Humor
- “Want to go to the dance and laugh at people’s dance moves with me?”
- “I need a date to the dance who can tolerate my playlist. You available?”
- “I’d ask in person but this way, you can take a minute to react. Want to go to the dance?”
- “Not to brag, but I’m really good at awkward small talk at dances. Want to join me?”
- “I’m told dances are more fun with someone cool. Want to prove it right?”
- “Want to go to the dance and quietly judge the decorations with me?”
- “We’ll probably survive the dance if we go together. Want to test it out?”
- “I’m asking you to the dance. You can thank me later.”
- “I need someone to show up to the dance with who won’t disappear mid-song. You game?”
- “Want to go to the dance? I promise not to force any matching outfits.”
Quick and Straightforward
- “Dance? Me and you?”
- “Want to be my date?”
- “Hey, you want to go with me to the dance?”
- “Any interest in going to the dance with me?”
- “Would you say yes if I asked you to the dance?”
- “Planning to go to the dance. Want to come with?”
- “If I invited you to the dance, would you go?”
- “You got a date yet? If not, want to go with me?”
- “Want to make the dance less boring by going together?”
- “Thought I’d ask before someone else does: want to go to the dance with me?”
Keep This in Mind
You don’t need to overthink every word. Just be clear, respectful, and honest. If he says yes, great. If he says no, you’ll still be glad you had the guts to ask. Either way, you tried. That’s what matters most.