What is “Netflix and Chill” and How to Do it Properly?


In the olden days, the way to begin a relationship with a person was to give the family a dowry for the ladies’ hand. Then it transitioned into the man having to court the woman to get her to date him and then marry before any intimate actions were to take place. But now in this new day and age, the ways of the dating game have changed drastically.

Now casual dating and having multiple partners is a common thing to have. Also, the new trend of having sexual relations is to invite a person you are attracted to; is to have them come over to your home to “Netflix and Chill”. If you find yourself being deeply attracted to this girl or guy this new trend is a way to get to a closer more personal level with them. But there are a few things that you have to do for you to do “Netflix and Chill” properly.

The Steps to the Perfect Movie Night

The first thing that you want to make sure that you do when you invite a person to come to your home or your dorm room to “Netflix and Chill” is to make sure that you actually turn on Netflix. People are always messing up by making it too obvious about what they truly want. While the person coming over knows what could possibly happen it is in their power to decide if sex happens or if they are truly going to binge watch a show with you. But the point is that you want to make sure that you are not too obvious with your attempts because that can be a major turn off and could ruin the entire evening before it truly begins. You do not want to make yourself seem to desperate or needy when they walk through the door and you also do not want to come off cocky like you know that you are about to get some. The feelings you want to exude is that you and your partner are about to having a nice relaxing night together in each other’s arms not that you are about to get in those pants.

What are Your Intentions?

The next thing that you are going to want to do is to make sure that you are not making this relaxing at home and making out plan a first date because it is not acceptable if you are trying to get a relationship with this person. If you are shooting for a relationship then you want to make sure that the person understands that you care about them as a person and not about just hitting it. If you are just looking for this to be something quick you still have to put in the effort to make that person feel special. It has to be more than we going to put on a movie but we are not going to be watching it. You should have snacks, bring up an interesting conversation, and cuddle before trying to cope a feel.

Make it Comfortable

Another thing is to make sure that the chill in “Netflix and Chill” is the best it can possibly be. You want to make sure that both of you are going to be comfortable for the hour to an hour and a half that you both are going to be sitting there. You want to make sure that your seats are comfy and relaxing enough, but not too comfy where the person could fall asleep. Many people like to have the Netflix on their laptops so that the pair can cuddle on the bed because it is the most comfortable place to be and when things do start to heat up they have a nice space to do it. You can also hook Netflix up onto your wide or big screen and cuddle on the couch; which means that you will have less space and will be closer together, but it all depends on your preference.

The last step for a successful “Netflix and Chill” evening is to make sure that you and your partner actually have sex. That is the main goal of the whole evening and that is the mission that you are trying to accomplish. If you are going to call the night a “Netflix and Chill” night then it has to end with the chill part of it. If it does not end with the highest level of intimacy then it was just a relaxing evening watching movies and cuddling, but it was not what people are calling “Netflix and Chill”.

Did YOU know?

1) Only 9 percent of women and 2 percent of men found a relationship at a bar or club

2) 38% of singles are using online dating

3) One in six marriages now begin online