Going on dating sites can come with a lot of stigma with what you are supposed to be like. Many sites advocate long-lasting relationships or being with people to date them solely. This is why it can be hard to go on dating sites when all you are looking for is a fun time or a quick hookup. Tinder is a good option for you if you want to be able to express the fact you just want to hook up without feeling as if you have to have more with the person.
So how do you go about expressing the idea that you just want to hook up and find people that likewise are looking for a hookup? Knowing good lines and ways to talk or ask for the hookup are key.
First and foremost, be honest with what you want. Put in your bio that you are not looking for a serious relationship. This will help filter out matches that may have been looking for a long-lasting relationship instead of just a hookup. When you match, try to be honest with what you want. Maybe start with something about their bio you like and be nice, but make sure you also include the fact that you are ultimately looking for something to have a good time with. This way you cut through all the messy conversations only to be turned down because that wasn’t what they were looking for. There is no need to be abrupt, just honest. If you tell them what you want in a respectful manner and listen to their response politely, you are more than likely to get what you want.
When you talk to people on tinder, be respectful. Do not demand nudes or sex. You cannot expect that someone just wants sex only because they match with you. Politely inform them what you want and wait for their response. If they turn you down, be respectful. They may change their mind later down the road if they know you are not some creep that is going to force them into anything or get upset if they don’t like something. Good lines to use are something like, “It’s nice to meet you! Right off the bat I just want to be upfront about what I’m looking for so I don’t waste your time. At this time in my life, I’m not really looking for a serious relationship. I mostly just want some companionship and someone to have a good time with now and again. I understand if this isn’t what you want and there is no pressure to do anything you might not want to! If this sounds like something you want, we should talk and see if this might be something you want?” Just be straightforward and nice and don’t send anything like, “DTF?” or “send nudes.” Sounding demanding is a sure way to turn someone off or freak them out. They won’t want to sleep with someone who is going to be controlling.
Overall, just be a decent person. Stay honest and polite. Try not to sound like a jerk or entitled and you will likely get farther than you think. People will want to sleep with people who seem like they respect them. They don’t want to feel used or like an object. Treat them like how you would want to be treated and don’t use cheesy or offensive lines on them. People will likely see that you are a person who they can trust. Going to someone’s house you have never met to hook up can be scary. You want them to feel like they can talk to you and make yourself seem unthreatening and kind. Be the kind of person that people actually feel like they can hang out with because you make them feel comfortable. This can continue into when you actually meet. Stay polite and kind and ask them if what you are doing is okay. If they look uncomfortable, stop and talk about boundaries or what you can do to make things better for them. This will make it more likely for you to receive a repeat performance later. The more you respect, don’t use offensive or demanding language, and stay upfront about your intentions, the more likely it is that you will find hookups that suit you and the person you are with.