Tinder is the dating app sensation that has been sweeping the nation (and the world) over the past several years. The concept behind it is fairly simple: make a profile with photos and a short bio, then decide which people you find attractive by swiping right and ones you do not by swiping left. If both you and the person swipe right on each other, a chat opens up and you can communicate.
Sounds like a fun and easy way to meet someone, doesn’t it? Well, not quite.
For all the entertainment value that Tinder presents, there are many things about the application that make not worth downloading if you do not have it and worth dropping if you do. Here are some reasons why you should delete your Tinder account.
- Tider is judgmental
Did YOU know?
1) Only 9 percent of women and 2 percent of men found a relationship at a bar or club
2) 38% of singles are using online dating
3) One in six marriages now begin online
Essentially, Tinder is about looking at a photo of someone and deciding if they are appealing. If you find them attractive, you may look through their photos and read their bios to get a greater sense of whom they are. If you do not, though, it is likely that you look at their photo and immediately decide you are not interested. While you are doing this to other people, it does not seem like a big deal, but when you recognize that hundreds of people out there are judging whether or not you are worth their time based on one photo, you may begin to reconsider. In a sense, Tinder dehumanizes the other people on the app because there is very little you can learn about a person from a short biography and six photos. As a result, most Tinder matches occur purely based off looks. If you are looking for something casual, then perhaps this is what you want. If you are looking for something more serious, then it is less likely Tinder will get you the results you are looking for. Judging people based off looks keeps you from seeing their personality.
- It can be a bad environment
The way that Tinder works can lead to some bad interactions that are not nearly as likely to occur in a real-time setting. For example, you may receive a sexually explicit message or something that makes you uncomfortable right off the bat. Even if you unmatch the individual who does this, it is likely that they will write the same message to someone else. While this is certainly not true for all people on Tinder, there are people who believe they are entitled to something from you because you matched. This is an unsound assumption in the first place, but it can become especially uncomfortable if they barrage you with inappropriate messages. It is possible to meet friendly, interesting people through Tinder, but it also possible to meet these people in real-time without the bad culture formed by entitled people on the dating app.
- Tinder limits you to people who are on the app
While there can seem to be an unlimited number of people on Tinder, there are certainly more people you can meet day-to-day than you can meet through the app. If you are under the assumption that all people who are looking for a relationship, casual or serious, are on Tinder, then you are wrong. There are many, many people who choose not to use dating apps, even if they are single. Great people are all around you – sticking on Tinder may cause you to believe that you have swiped through all your options, even when you have not!
- Feelings can get hurt
Tinder provides the security of having a screen between you and the person you are talking to, so it very easy to say things you do not mean without having the other person catch on to any verbal or body cues. This, paired with the fact that you may not have any mutual friends with someone you are speaking to on Tinder, means that you have no idea whether someone are speaking to is being genuine. On Tinder, it is very easy for someone to say one thing, such as they are interested in a long-term relationship, while not actually having these intentions. Because it is so easy to unmatch someone on Tinder, it is possible for you to never hear from him or her again after an encounter you thought went well. Tinder makes it easy for people to lie to get what they want, which can result in hurt feelings on your side.
Tinder is a very tricky dating app that can lead to plenty of unneeded stress if it does not work out in your favor. Because of the judgmental nature of the app, the potentially bad environment, the limited number of people on the app, and the potential for hurt feelings, Tinder is an app you should delete. If you are scared that you will have no other way to meet people, consider that it may be time to break out of your comfort zone and meet people without swiping right and hiding behind a screen. Alternatively, join a dating site which caters to users interested in long term dating such as Match.com. View pics for free now on Match.com, the #1 dating site!