How to Use eHarmony Effectively: Get Responses, Phone Numbers and Dates!


Finding love online is an increasingly more common choice for many singles today. Depending on the demands on your time, your location, or your ease with new social interactions, it can be difficult to make meaningful connections in your daily life. Technology makes getting over these roadblocks much easier. But it’s not enough to just sign up for an account. eHarmony is one of the most popular sites because of their high rate of success, so here are some tips on how to maximize the effectiveness of their top notch algorithm.

Spend time on the questionnaire. It’s the first thing you’re asked to do and it may seem obvious, but you’d be surprised how many people try to breeze through this very important part of the matching process. eHarmony has an extensive questionnaire and it’s important that you take your time to answer these questions thoughtfully and truthfully. This will be the main way the algorithm determines potential partners for you. Unlike other sites, eHarmony sends you matches directly. Instead of sifting through hundreds of profiles, eHarmony does the sorting for you so in order for it to give you the best possible options you have to take your time with the questions.

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Did YOU know?

1) Only 9 percent of women and 2 percent of men found a relationship at a bar or club

2) 38% of singles are using online dating

3) One in six marriages now begin online

‘In Your Own Words’

Don’t slouch on the “in my words” questions. This is one of the places where you can let your personally shine. Answer at least four of these types of questions. Use full sentences and try answering them as you would if someone was asking you in person. Remember, your match will be curious about you and will be using everything at their disposal to get a better sense of who you are to determine if they want to respond back to your message, or even initiate contact themselves!

Tell them all about yourself. It can be difficult to describe yourself, but it’s crucial that you take the time to thoughtfully fill out your profile. Online daters have reported that one of the top reasons they don’t respond to messages or initiate contact is that the ‘About me’ page is either not completely filled out or there isn’t enough detail. It’s not about conveying every little aspect of who you are. Rather, you want to show the aspects of your personality that your value the most.

Say cheese! While compatibility goes way beyond looks, appearance still an important factor in making a connection. Statistics show that posting a photo will up your chances of communication by a factor of 9. That’s huge! And no wonder—no one wants to spark up a conversation with the Invisible Man or Woman. eHarmony allows you to post up to 12 photos, but try to add at least 3 to your profile. The more photos you have, the more time potential matches will spend scrolling through your profile. Make sure you’re clearly visible in your primary picture—don’t let it be a guessing game with multiple people in one shot!). The other shots can be more dynamic and show your playful side.

Communicate. Now that eHarmony has curated a list of excellent matches, it’s time for you to begin reaching out. eHarmony uses something called “guided communication” to help you get to know your matches at your own pace. There are four rounds of guided communication: get to know each other, must haves/can’t stands, learn more, and open communication. Most people go through these steps when first contacting a match, but it’s especially great for those new to online dating or who are naturally a little more reserved. You can, however, skip straight to direct communication with eH Mail if you both prefer. However you choose to proceed, just make sure you do actually initiate contact with people. This last point is very important for women who are more likely to wait for the other person to open a conversation. If you don’t show some initiative, you may miss out on the perfect match!

Be Open. You never know whom that special someone will be. eHarmony has matched you with people that you are highly compatible with, even if on first impression they don’t seem like your usual “type.” Just because someone doesn’t check all the boxes doesn’t mean they aren’t The One. If you’re interest is piqued even a little, there’s no harm in learning a little more about them because you can always end your communication if it’s just not working out. If you’re interested in getting out of your comfort zone, take advantage of eHarmony’s Flexible Matching by changing your “How Important is this Preference” rating on things that aren’t absolute deal breakers.

For many, e-dating is a lot easier than striking up a conversation in person, but it doesn’t mean that there isn’t any strategy to getting the most out of your online encounters. Thoughtfully filling out the questionnaire and your profile, taking initiative in starting communication, and being open to new possibilities will increase your chances of finding a great match on eHarmony. 6 month Subscription Coupon (60% Off a 6-Month Membership at with code EHCODE. Valid through 12-31-2017)