There’s something attractive about a man who has his ducks in a row: Someone who doesn’t play games and knows what he wants. Someone who knows what they’re doing in life, or just knows a lot about life in general.
It’s a compliment, knowing someone older is interested in you. It can make your heart race and your stomach flutter, but if you thought it was hard to tell if a guy around your age liked you, it could be a completely different game with an older man. There are many nuances to dating or talking to someone, and you just need to know what to look for when pursuing someone older than you.
Of course, no one is the same, so talking to someone and finding out if someone likes you is going to vary from person to person. There are a lot of things to consider, especially how much older the guy is than you. If there’s a generational gap, they may have different expectations than you. If there is only a couple of years between you and him, then it might not be as hard to tell if he’s interested.
So here are some things to look for that may suggest he likes you as more than a friend.
- He compliments you
This seems like a pretty basic tell if a man likes you, but if you consider someone who is older, it could mean something much more significant. An older man is going to be cautious depending on your age. He doesn’t want you to get the wrong idea, so he might compliment you to see how you react.
There is a stigma attached to older men dating younger women, so he might be testing the waters with basic compliments.
- He’s willing to spend time with you
Most older guys have full-time jobs and sometimes even families to take care of. These responsibilities can be extremely time-consuming. It’s a good sign if he wants to plan around his busy schedule to spend time with you. It means you’re one of his priorities.
If he blows you off for various reasons or says he’s too busy and isn’t willing to spend his free time with you, he’s probably not interested.
- He wants you to meet his children.
Kids are the center of their parents’ worlds, especially to a single parent. If the older man you’re into has children, and he’s talked about the possibility of you meeting them, you’re in. Most guys won’t want someone they’re not interested in around their children, so if he trusts you enough to be around his kids eventually, it’s a good sign.
It can be hard on children when their single parent tries to bring someone new into the picture. To the child, it can feel like their dad is trying to replace their mom, for example. So, it may also matter what his children think of you. Some men won’t date someone their children don’t like.
- He says how mature you are
Older men are looking for someone who understands their busy schedule, is willing to be straightforward with them, and won’t play childish games. If he recognizes these qualities in you and compliments you on them, it’s a good sign.
If your older guy mentions how mature you are, he’s also placing you in the same category as women his age. Since he has noticed your maturity, it probably means he’s into you.
- He includes you in his future plans
If he has a trip coming up or has always wanted to go somewhere and talks about bringing you with, he’s into you. He wouldn’t just bring someone he’s not interested in, especially if that person is younger than him.
- Just ask him
Some older men might not be into the game of dating. If you just ask him if he’s interested, he’ll probably be straightforward with you.
Asking can also clear up some misunderstandings. It may be a little scary to ask an older man if he’s interested in you, but it shows maturity, and the worst he can say is “No.” If he is interested in you, he’ll see how unafraid and candid you are, and it could strengthen his feelings for you.
Overall, consider how you guys talk to one another. Consider why he may be talking to someone your age. If it makes you uncomfortable, obviously stop talking to him. But there’s nothing wrong with dating someone older than you if you’re smart about it, and you’re of legal age.
If he makes you happy, share that with him, and you may be pleasantly surprised.
Where to meet older guys?
There are several places where you can meet older men such as high-end lounges, trendy bars and restaurants where they might go after work or lunch, museum, golf courses and etc. However the most convenient place to meet older guys is online. If you decide to go the online dating route you should skip sites like POF or Tinder and instead join a reputable site such as harmony or Match. View 30+ Singles In Your Area – Match.com