Bumble has been labeled one of the best dating apps for single women. The app allows the fairer sex to have more power when it comes to potential matches; you’re still meant to swipe to the left or right, but the catch is if you match with a guy you have the responsibility to message them back and you only have 24 hours.
If you match with someone you really like you only have 24 hours to come up with someone clever to say to get that person to be interested. How do you start a conversation? What do you say to the guy to get him to respond back and be interested you? Here are some tips on getting the conversation started.
Write interesting Bumble bio
First, I would keep my profile and bio up to date and interesting. Say something to make people want to message you and so that they also have something to say to you to strike up an interesting conversation. Often, men will see a profile and be attracted but don’t know what to say to start a conversation or make that first contact. They too are trying to be interesting to get a response back from you. Make it easier for them to talk to you and to want to talk to you once they are attracted to your profile.
Don’t wait too long to start a conversation
Don’t wait too long to start a conversation when you get a match with the Bumble app. Remember you only have 24 hours to respond to someone when you get a mutual match on the app. If you don’t respond within the 24 hours the person will disappear. To prevent this, message them as soon as you can. This way, they will know that you’re interested in pursuing a conversation, and you don’t run the risk of losing out on a potentially cool person.
When sending the first message use proper English and grammar. There are a lot of grammar Nazi’s out there and just in general using proper English and grammar makes you look more intelligent in a first impression. Text lingo, bad grammar, and bad spelling are huge turn-offs. Especially when you are on the internet and most likely using a device that has spell check and auto correct, and whatever you don’t know can be easily googled. If you are talking to someone like me, seeing incorrect grammar actually distracts me and takes me away from the point you are trying to make. Especially if it is really bad and hard to read. So, just take the time to do a quick once over on the message you are sending.
Avoid physical compliments
Avoid physical compliments in the first message. Quite frankly, it is shallow and it shows what you are looking for from the beginning and that you don’t care much about the person’s personality. This may seem like something that happens more with guys towards girls but girls do it too, sometimes unknowingly. There isn’t a person out there that will say that they don’t like to receive compliments. However, you should keep your compliments genuine instead of using them as pickup lines. Even if you have met person using a physical compliment can be annoying and corny.
Use an interesting greeting. Skip the “hey” or the “eyes emoji” and get to whatever it is that you want to say. A lot of people just skip over a simple “hello” or “Hi” message. It kind of shows that you barely looked at the profile and you really don’t have much to say to interest the person that you are trying to talk to.
Talk about specific things that interest you or that you might have in common with someone to make a connection. If you take something you noticed from their profile and bio, then it’s a plus. It’s guaranteed that you have this interest in common if you find something on their profile that you are interested in.
At the end of the day, the best way to approach someone for the first time is to be confident and be yourself. Don’t try to impress someone by trying to be someone you are not and act the way that you think you need to act to attract that person. The person will like you for who you are. Then on top of that incorporate some of the tips in this article and be yourself and that should create the perfect first message to someone you are interested in.
Even though dating apps such as Bumble and Tinder are great for meeting new people and getting dates if you are looking for something more serious try dating sites such as Match or Eharmony. Registration