Dating can be difficult, especially when you have certain types you are attracted to. Sometimes there are people that you like that seem unobtainable, like strippers and exotic dancers. However, if you know where to go and what to do, you may just have a shot at getting to know a stripper better and lead yourself into a relationship with one.
If you are going to attempt to date a stripper or exotic dancer, you are going to need to pick out a club that is right for you and remember to not judge the dancers, go in early, don’t get lap dances, know how to tip, know when to leave, be accepting of her job, and actually just ask her out and be sweet.
Pick a Club
Did YOU know?
1) Only 9 percent of women and 2 percent of men found a relationship at a bar or club
2) 38% of singles are using online dating
3) One in six marriages now begin online
To meet a dancer you are going to have to be prepared to go to clubs often. The first thing you want to look into are the kinds of clubs that are available around you. While some of the cheaper, simpler clubs may have excellent dancers and smart woman, you are more likely to find girlfriend material at a higher end gentlemen’s club. If you want to up your odds of finding someone you’ll be able to connect with, you will want to pay more for a better setting to meet these girls in.
Don’t Judge a Book by Its Cover
When you go to the club you pick, treat all the girls with respect. Many men at the club will treat them poorly, like a sexual object with no other worth. You need to understand that she has a life outside of the club. She may have a family, hobbies, a degree, or other things that make her more than her job. By acknowledging her worth as a person, you will be better prepared to go into a potential relationship with her. If you enter a relationship focusing solely on her body and job, it is likely it will not last long.
Go In Early
To get more personal time with the dancers go in early. If you show up before anyone is really there, the chances of the dancers hanging out and talking with each other will increase. If you can politely approach them and start a conversation before their job really starts, it will be a great way for them to get to know you better as a person. This way you will get to make sure you actually like the girl you are going for and she will be able to get a sense for you.
Don’t Get Lap Dances from a Stripper
One important thing to remember is to not pay for a lap dance from her. By doing this you are engaging yourself in a client oriented relationship. She will see you as someone who pays for her services and that might make her worry of starting a personal relationship with you. Also know to not pay for a lap dance from other women either. This will make you seem flighty and she will be under the impression that you are not serious in your advances toward her and would go for any woman if given the chance.
Know How to Tip the Stripper
Just because you are not paying her for lap dances does not mean that you don’t pay her. When she is on stage make sure to tip her just a little extra than you are tipping the other girls. This will subtly show her you like her. When you do this make sure you still tip the other girls or you may start jealousy among her group and will make her job harder for her.
Know When to Leave
When the club starts to get busy and you know that you won’t be getting much more attention from her it is probably time to leave. Once she starts giving lap dances to other people, she will not be able to talk with you. Leaving at this time lets her know you aren’t going to interrupt her job or stop her from getting the money she needs.
Be Accepting of Her Job as a Stripper
When talking to her never shame her for stripping. If you are going into this thinking you can change her, it is better to not attempt to date a stripper or exotic dancer at all. She will not want to be in a relationship with you if you are going to make her feel bad for working.
Ask Her Out and Be Sweet
Last, but not least, after you have been attending the club or a while and gotten her to know you, try asking her out. The worst she can say is no. If she seems timid do not push her. That will only make her retract and not want to date you. If she agrees to go out with you, be considerate and sweet. Don’t do anything oversexualized as that will likely be what she is exacting from you as she deals with it on a daily basis. Be kind and don’t pressure her into sex on the first date. You will be glad you didn’t in the long run.
Overall, dating a stripper may seem hard, but in reality, it is just like dating anyone else. Go to places they will be and be kind and considerate. Think about your actions and little things you can do to get her attention without being obnoxious or ruining her job and you might be able to date a dancer.