Just like women, men face a myriad number of physical and emotional changes as they grow older. Men over 45 are more experienced and mature than younger men and have likely had more partners. Additionally, unlike younger men, a more mature man might not be aroused as quickly or strongly, so it’s important to consider that he isn’t necessarily going to be attracted to the same qualities as a younger man.
So, if you’re a woman trying to attract an older man, here are some tricks to consider:
Confidence is one of the most attractive qualities that can draw in a man of any age, especially an older man. Older men have likely had more sexual partners, and are likely looking for someone who is comfortable with their sexuality. Having confidence shows that you are not afraid to be intimate and that you are fully willing to please him. Older men are also more understanding of the physical aspects of a woman’s body, so don’t be self-conscious about any imperfections you have, such as wrinkles or stretch marks.
Take your Time
Unlike younger men, an older man may not be as eager to head right into intercourse. As men age, their sexual pace becomes much more like a woman’s, meaning it may take him much longer to feel aroused. This means that you don’t have to be sexually aggressive or initiate intercourse right away. Foreplay becomes much more important, and taking things slowly can help him feel more attracted to you and make the experience more enjoyable for both parties.
Keep Things Interesting
Since older men have had numerous sexual partners, they have probably had a wide variety of experiences. Therefore, he can probably tire quite easily from the same thing every night. It’s important to keep things interesting by incorporating new experiences. Changing small things like sexual positions and the time of day you do it can accomplish a lot as far as making him more attracted to you.
Be his Equal, Not his Mother or Child
Men over 45 are most likely fully capable of taking care of themselves. Therefore, taking on a motherly role isn’t likely to be much of a turn on. Similarly, acting like a child is not likely to be attractive either, since he probably either has children or doesn’t want any. He is meant to be your partner, not a replacement for a father or son. It’s important to be yourself since older men are often looking for someone to be their equal in a sexual partnership.
As stated before, older men aren’t looking for a child figure in a sexual partnership, they’re looking for an equal. Older men want someone who is sophisticated and mature. Even if you’re younger, it’s important to show that you can handle an older man by acting like an adult.
Communicate with him
It can be a turn on when you let an older man know what pleases you. Older men want someone who isn’t afraid to let them know what they want. Most older men also know from experience that not every woman’s body works the same, and the same tricks don’t work for every woman. Don’t be afraid to tell him what you want in bed; both of you will benefit from it in the long run.
Be Honest with him
Older men are most likely experienced enough to know when someone is faking. Even though it’s important to let him know when you are turned on, don’t fake orgasms or pretend to be enjoying something if you’re not. Don’t point out his fault if he isn’t pleasing you, but do tell him how to please you the right way.
An older man may not be as virile as he was when he was younger, so it’s important to encourage and reassure him. Let him know when you are enjoying yourself during intercourse, but don’t be dishonest of course. Draw attention to his skills by letting him know what feels good. It is always a turn on when you’re able to make a man feel more confident about himself.
Being sexually involved with an older man can have many benefits, whether you are younger or the same age as him. Unlike younger men, who are often eager to dive headfirst into sex, an older man is more likely to be attentive to your needs and desires. Likewise, it is important for you to pay attention to what he wants, as in all other areas of a relationship. So, if you want to make him attracted to you sexually, it’s important to spend time with him and learn what turns him on so that you can benefit from the partnership as well.