Unless you’ve lived under a rock, you’ve probably heard of Instagram. A picture-focused site where people flock to post their duck faces and food pics, Instagram is, unsurprisingly, stupid with pretty people. You might spy a beautiful girl and think this is a great chance to get to know her – and you might be right. Instagram’s the platform of choice for the young and beautiful, and finding a girlfriend from the site is not out of the question.
- Throw out all your info
Ever talked to a girl on Instagram? Well, if you tried before 2015, forget whatever you learned from it. In the beginning of Instagram, you had to message people by sending them a picture first. Obviously, that lead to a different strategy when it came to meeting people. It used to be a good idea to open a conversation with a selfie pic or a silly meme because, well, you had to start with something. Nowadays, though? An update to the messaging system nixed that requirement, so not it’s likely to get you ignored. Throw out all the tips and guides you’ve got on Instagram that predate this time: they’re probably useless now.
- Update your Instagram profile
On Instagram, your profile is your most valuable asset. Get it in order before you even think about approaching a girl. What can you do to polish it up? The first step is to set it to public. Throwing open the doors can be a bit unnerving, but you’re less likely to get anywhere with a girl if you put up a barrier to yourself. Making it private can seem like you’ve got something to hide. Instead, set it so anyone can see you. This way, when you try to talk up a girl, she can just dart to your profile to check you out. No pressure, and no walls to scare her off.
- Picking cool pics
Once that’s done, try to fill your profile with varied, interesting pictures. Those thirty thousand selfies of you flexing in the gym, buried beneath a million filters? Yeah, that’s not likely to impress her. Trim it down to one or two – or even, none. Pics that obviously show off your own physique can seem self-absorbed and narcissistic. Keep pics that show off what you look like, but consider the context they’re in: a shot of you smiling next to a national monument can make you seem well-traveled and intriguing. A picture of you laughing with friends can give the impression that you’re friendly, sociable, and know how to have a good-time. Gravitate to pictures that show off your personality and interests as much as your face. Sprinkle in a few shots of something else. Art, if you’re an artist. Food, if you’re a foodie. Demonstrate who you are and what you like, not just your muscle mass.
- Do your research
If you’re thinking of chatting someone up, you probably can see their profile. Give it a glance-over, and focus on more than just her pretty face. What is she doing in the pictures? Where is she going? What does she seem into, and what do you have in common? If you want to be with a girl, you have to talk to her first. And knowing what she’s about will make that much easier.
- Take the plunge
Send her a DM. Don’t bother with generic stuff like “How’s your day?” or “You look beautiful.” Chances are she’s heard it before, and it’s a snore-fest besides. Message her about something personal, and preferably, as obscure as you can think of. Have you visited a place she’s been to in one of her pics? Ask about that. Did you spot her in a shirt for one of your favorite bands? Fire off a question on it. The more unique, personal, and tailored your DM is, the more likely she is to pick it up. Girls on Instagram likely get plenty of messages from hopefuls like you, so standing out from the pack without being too forward or creepy is the key.
As a note – ditch the pick-up lines and jokes. They’re not all that funny or cute, and if they’re too forward, you’ll probably just creep her out. It’s better to send something she can respond to, so you can get a rapport going. Best case scenario? You get her talking, really talking, about something you both know. From there, the conversation should flow easy and natural. Worst case? She doesn’t respond, and you can find another fish in the sea.
But don’t blow it on an attempt to be cute. A real conversation is worth a thousand cheesy pick-up lines.