We all know the saying ‘a good man can be hard to find,’ but the same can be true for trying to find a good woman. Men can search years, even decades before crossing paths with their soul mate. It’s a search that shouldn’t be taken lightly or made in haste, for often times it’s the experiences of failed relationships where a man learns what he wants, and maybe more importantly, what he doesn’t want.
Trying to find the right woman to spend the rest of your life with can feel like a daunting task; however, here are some important things for men to consider when looking for a good woman to marry.
Decide What You Want First
Did YOU know?
1) Only 9 percent of women and 2 percent of men found a relationship at a bar or club
2) 38% of singles are using online dating
3) One in six marriages now begin online
The first and most important thing a man should do is figure out what he hopes to find in a woman. It sounds like a preconceived notion, but the fact is there are married men out there looking at their wives and wondering, ‘what is it about her that made me believe I could spend the rest of my life with this woman?’
So, how can men figure out what they want? Go on dates, lots of them if you have to. These dates may even turn into relationships of varying lengths. This is not a bad thing. Explore these relationships; identify what it is about each one that you enjoyed or didn’t enjoy. A word of caution: never settle for anything less than you deserve or want. A woman may be sexy and smart and all your friends and family love her, but if she doesn’t make you laugh, or she doesn’t want kids but you do, and then it’s probably not meant to be. Don’t force a relationship to work. There is a woman out there that you’ll connect with unlike any other; you just need to find her. Sometimes that takes going on a few bad dates before finding her, so remember, don’t get discouraged. When you find the right girl, it’ll all be worth it.
Patience is an important virtue to exercise when searching for a good woman, however, don’t hesitate to end a relationship if you feel she isn’t the right one for you. There’s no need to waste time or energy trying to make something work that deep down you know just isn’t right, and what’s worse is possibly missing out on an encounter with someone who is a much better match for you. So, put forth your best self in every relationship. A true assessment will leave no doubt, when it’s time to decide to move on or drop to a knee, but don’t let a relationship linger from fear of the uncomfortable break-up ritual that ensues. Move on with confidence that you gave it your best effort, and it just wasn’t meant to be.
Where to Find a Woman Right for You
Some men will then ask, ‘But, where do I go to find a good woman,’ but that is the wrong question to ask. A man should be asking himself where he would feel comfortable meeting a woman. Go to places in line with your moral standards, places that involve hobbies you enjoy, or events attended by well-rounded women, all of which give you the best opportunity to meet a good woman, or more importantly, a woman who fits the mold of what you’re looking for.
The worst thing you can do when searching for a good woman to marry is become a recluse. The world is connected in ways we can’t see from the pit of our couch. If you think you’re dream girl is going to mistakenly knock on your door one day, then you’ll be waiting a very long time for that knock. Finding a good woman takes interaction in social settings, whether it be on an online dating site or at your local gym. The point is, be active and intentional in your search. Many men will think of this as a painful part of the process, but really, it should be fun to express who you are and find someone who enjoys you for being you.
Passion Attracts Good Women
Finally, if you want to find a good woman to spend the rest of your life with, take pride in everything you do. From your personal appearance to the cleanliness of your car to the energy you put forth in your career or life’s passion, show that you deserve a good woman to build a future with. Women with ambitions and a passion to leave this world a better place aren’t looking for a husband and father who can’t take care of himself and his belongings. They don’t want a man who has no direction in life. A good woman is searching for her counterpart who will help her grow domestically, socially, economically, and spiritually. When you give off the impression you don’t care, you’ll attract women that share those same values. So, be passionate every day. Prove that you are constantly becoming something better, and you’ll be amazed at the type of women getting in line to live that kind of life with you.
Finding a good woman to marry is not always easy. Just like men, there are good ones and bad ones. But, the key is to put yourself in the best possible positions to interact with the women in line with what you’re passionate about. If you do this, not only will you find a good woman, but you’ll find the right woman who will make you happy for the rest of you