The downside of dating is that sometimes you will have to break up with your current boyfriend or girlfriend for one reason or another. Maybe you have different personalities, you always argue, there is no physical intimacy anymore, you feel you partner is lazy and is taking advantage of you and so on.
You may even still like your partner and want to be friends, but you know that it is time to move on because staying in a relationship just makes you frustrated and depressed. So how can you break up without hurting your partner’s feelings?
It is hard to dump someone without making them feel bad about it. However, there are several things you can do to make the break up as painless as possible for both parties:
Wait for the right moment before telling your partner that you think you should end the relationship
If you just had a big fight, it might be a good time to start hinting that maybe you are not good combinations. Don’t say it straight to his or her face but mention that you guys are always fighting and you think it is because you are just too different and want different things in life. He might be interested and passioned about his work or business and he can spend weeks working on it while giving minimum attention to you. While you might not care about his business at all and be more concerned about spending as much time as possible together, or maybe you are thinking about starting a family but he is not ready to commit. You just have different priorities and since neither of you can sacrifice, your relationship is not working and even worse, you are just dragging each other down.
Tell him or her that you are stressed out and you don’t feel excited about the relationship or even sex anymore
Open up to you partner and try to hint that physical attraction is gone, but it is not his or her fault. Tell them that it is you and you just need a break to figure out what is happening with you. If you can, you can also blame your lack of attraction on other external factors such as work, family, friends and etc. You are just too stressed out and something needs to change. What to Do if You Cheated on Your Girlfriend or Boyfriend?
Tell your partner that you should take a two-week break to figure out things out
Having a break might help your partner realize that there is no attraction left and you are just used to being together.
Tell your partner that you still care and want to stay close friends
Start by saying that you really like him or her but you don’t feel the same about the relationship anymore. Tell him or her that they deserve someone better because you don’t feel physically attracted anymore and you had to say this or otherwise it would be unfair to them.
Some things you should avoid doing while trying to break up:
- Making your partner jealous by hanging out with other guys or girls. You need to wait at least a month after breaking up or otherwise your partner will feel mistreated and mislead.
- Getting angry. If you say that you want to break up, your partner might get angry and even start blaming you. Just understand that he or she is upset and be supportive instead of arguing back.
- Stop any contact with your ex. You should still talk to your ex after breaking up once in a while to keep the friendly ties and if you can try to introduce him or her to someone else.
Break ups are some of the worst things that can happen to anyone, but it is part of life. By making sure you don’t damage your partner’s self-esteem while dumping him or her, you both will be better off and your and his friends will still treat you with respect after you are done.